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anonymous
writes:Hi guys,so iv been dating a guy for about 3 weeks and i like him a lot. hes funny and being really sweet so far.However, he is less attractive than me. and im not saying this because i am full of myself. he is not normally the kind of guy I go for but I have totally fallen in love with his personality.But i think he's feeling a bit insecure. He keeps saying things like 'wow im so surprised you're still here' or the other day he was sort of hinting at how hes not a good looking guy. and he gets really jealous when i'm on a night out and some of my guy friends come along.I don't know how to make him less insecure. AS much as i reassure him I like him a lot he still seems insecure.but then i don't want to say that his personality is what i love because that seems rude.Help how can i make him feel more comfortable in our relationship?thank youxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionQuantumModulus, I have never at any point even hinted to him that I think I am more attractive. I'm not that kind of girl.
The problem is more that he makes a thing out of the fact that he feels less attractive and I find it hard to convince him that I think he is a gorgeous guy.
I don't want him to be insecure because I don't care about the looks. I mean I do find him completely attracive otherwise I wouldnt be with him.
Just can't seem to convince him of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): Reassurance, males are always the more nervous in relationships I believe. Don't pander to his jealousy- jealousy isn't healthy, just reassure him when he brings it up by giving him a kiss, look into his eyes and tell him that he makes you feel squirmy inside. Use cheesy lovey chat up lines on him. When you bring your male friends along on a night out make sure that you don't give of any "sexy signals" but make sure you still have fun with your friends. I'll finish on this though, DON'T isolate yourself from male friends, his jealousy , no matter how relevant to his insecurity, should not be allowed to be indulged and you must tell him this straight next time he makes any type of accusation. Good luck and remember males, as you have learnt are the weaker sex in relationships
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): Well, if I was you, I would tell him that you love him, and none of your other guy friends compare to him. And tell him, that you find him gorgeous, and that's the only thing that matters. Sounds like the movie 'she's out of my league' if you haven't seen it, I reccomend you watch it:)
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