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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Been dating for 2 months. In this time we've most probably seen each other over 20 times - it is moving fast but only due to a time limit we have. Anyway, things having been so great! Until on the weekend. I messaged him on how his day (it was a big day for him) went. He told me, then asked about mine. I told him it was a very interesting but long story (secretly hoping he'd take the bait and INSIST on knowing).He told me to tell him the next time we see each other, and dismissed me with a quick goodnight and heart icon. He's never been so uninterested in hearing from me, it kind of hurt. I vowed to stay silent over msgs until he would acknowledge his hurtful actions. Now, of course this sounds a little childish and ridiculous to me as well. This guy may have just been tired (from the big day) and last night (which was the following night) he sent a couple of random hearts - our language for "thinking of you - miss you/goodmorning/goodnight etc.". He is an EXTREME gentleman towards me. I really really like him and I'm sure he does too.It's been a day since and we don't msg too regularly so he may be completely unclued on my predicament. Yet I also never replied to his hearts in an attempting at keeping my vow of silence.I'm unsure where this insecurity came from - how do I fix it? And any insight on WHY I may be acting like this suddenly? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2015): In the player's circles they call this maneuver the sh*t test. You've set an impossible task for him to fail, and will feel offended when he fails.Alternatively, if, by some miracle, or by chance, he should happen to follow through with the test, and meet with your approval, you will find yourself losing respect for this "gentleman" that you can so easily put through his paces.Either way, you've set him up to lose.The only way forward is either for you to drop it, and contact him, and smooth it over, or for him to blast through your subsequent tantrum. If the first happens, you two could be headed towards a stable and loving relationship. If the second happens, you'll probably end up having a hot, fast, and wild fling that will leave you feeling used and jaded when he tires of your antics.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2015): Poor guy. You set traps for him to fail. In the nicest way possible, grow out of this. When you want attention ask for it. Say what you mean and mean what you say. People get sick of these silly games after a while and just dump you for being difficult.
Pick up the phone, call him and ask him how his day was. Then tell him about yours if you wish.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2015): He sounds like a keeper. Don't mess it up. He may not want to intrude by asking you more than you're willing to offer and doesn't think much of it.
Too many women tend to overanalyze things that may be inconsequential particularly in relationships. Just send him another heart back or whatever makes you comfortable and ease up a bit. Good luck!
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