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writes:I feel guilty because lately I've been having fantasies with my husband's brother!!!I'm glad to know that I finally found someone that could listen to me and give good advice on this that I been keeping to myself.I've been happily married for over two years to an excellent husband. I have known my husband's family (including his brother) for five years now. We are a young couple...I met my husband when I was 17 and got married when I was 21. Today I am 23 and he is 26. I feel bad to say this but his brother is now 15 and I don't see him with the same eyes as before. Now he is growing up and I cannot lie, he is just becoming a very handsome masculine sensitive boy-to-man. I do not know and were not my intentions to feel this way, I do not know if our lately closeness have provoke these emotions, since they have been struggling with family problems in their family and I have seen him more often. Two days ago, he hugged me very tightly and then kiss me in the cheek (thanking me for helping them resolve some problems) but I felt different (not as before when he kiss me in the cheek). Now that I have not seen him (just two days) I want to see him. I feel bad, I feel like the worst woman on earth...I have fantasies kissing him and even touching him and just hugging him telling him that all this family problems are going to disappear soon.I know i'm the worst person right now, but I just know that I would never be capable of doing something that would risk my relationship with this wonderful man that loves me with all his heart.But I feel confused and wrong...why am I feeling and thinking this way for his brother if I love my husband with all my heart?Please I need advice...am I normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): I am in a similar situation right now. I have been married to mu husband for 5 years now. His brother was in prison when I first met him, and we would often visit him on the weekend. We had decided that we would let him move in after he got out (even though this ended up not happening because of certain laws)and the more I thought about him coming, the more my feelings started to grow. I began to wear low cut tops when we would visit him, and after he got out, I started writing him anonymous letters and sending him gifts. I fantasized about him, and I missed him when he was not around. He came to house sit for us one weekend, and I finally told him who I was. Our relationship has still been great, but I wonder if he feels the same towards me. I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007):
This is completely NORMAL. I have a question, did this all of a sudden happen or did it recently happen during the experience of the strengthening hug?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): Your perfectly normal. I was in a similiar situation where I was attrached to my girlfriend's sister. We all have fantasies but we don't always have to act upon them, especially if it's going to hurt someone you love. You and your husband share something far more greater.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): Yes you're normal. 15 is being a child but some fifteeners look and behave as adults. The innocent closeness with him created confusions in your mind, however it would be sinful if any of you took this any further. But his brother's wife must be sacred for him, and you wouldn't risk your marriage either, I think you should try if possible to see him as a child - it's easier if the family treats him so and think of his adolescent occupations. I'm thinking this feeling may even derive from another desire. To have a child...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): I encourage everyone to make herself or himself as much as comfortable, but he/she has to be sure 100% that the otherside is respond positively, otherwise big problems happen, very big problems. So i think it is wonderful, but be carful, may be your husbend's brother do not want because of his brother, but overall, boys do not refuse sex from anybody.
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