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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My fiancee is ten years older than me and i love him very much. The age gap has never come in the way so i don't want anyone to mention it. His cousin is 8 years older. I was with my fiancee two years until i met this guy and my fiancee had me warned that his cousin is a flirt. Since i have met him he is an unbelievable flirt. He keeps trying to impress me with bullshit and even gave me an iphone for nothing as much as i tried to give money for it and on nights out he will only take pictures of me when i told him not to which i find strange. This guy is married with two kids and always tries to make me dislike my man by mentioning his ex girlfriends? He told my fiancee he married his wife as she wasnt the best looking so he would have no insecurities for the future and also has cheated on every girlfriend he ever had. Since then all this flirting has given me feelings and i am very attracted to him but i WILL NOT cheat ever . He is best man for our wedding and we both see him alot. I really need to get these feelings out of my head because last time i got drunk i stupidly told my fiancee i was attracted to his cousin and i never meant to say it as it was so cruel. He told me how his cousin tried this with every woman he ever had and now with his fiancee!! I need to remove these feelings as it is getting in the way. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2015): Stop spending time with him as a couple until he learns to respect other people's relationships. Don't have him as your n'est man!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (3 January 2015):
 At this point you should only have eyes for your future husband. The fact that you don't should convince you that you are not ready to settle down. But at your age, the majority of people are not ready. What is the rush? You need to postpone the wedding. Do the right thing by your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2015): Your immaturity is evident and you're not ready for marriage.
You haven't dated enough different guy-types to get it out of system. The more types you are exposed to, the more exact you will be about the type of guy you want. Then crushes won't fall on random guys, because you're so inexperienced.
By the way, your age has a lot to do with it.
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