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writes:I am in a relationship with someone I love very much, but in the course of the last year I have become tremendously attracted to a colleague at work. It is like a kind of recurrent malaria of the heart, in that it flares up for periods then dies down, but never really goes away. I wish that either I or the person in question would move to a new office, as it feels painful to see them. I have never felt so consistently attracted to anyone in my life, and I just wish it would go away!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): there's a difference between 'tremedously attracted' and 'love'.It's infatuation - been there. Chances are the feelings will never be reciprocated and you should concentrate on what you have. If your current relationship isn't working out then that should be your first priority. And if it still isn't working out, then maybe it's time to change. But you should be sure of what you want before you ever approach your colleague - sometimes the grass simply ain't as green as you may think. good luck dude
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): The fact that these feelings for your colleague flair up and then go away, means that you are merely infatuated, and projecting your sexual energy onto him and fueling your imagination.....let it go, it isn't real, and you are treading dangerous territory where your primary relationship is concerned.
Start focusing on your partner, and if your job is so boring that you are wanting to be distracted at work in this way, then change jobs and or companies.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (27 July 2007):
 If this will not go away and you love your partner very much, is there any chance you could confide in someone at your place of work and see if there is a possibility of you being moved to a different office?
Take care.x.x
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