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writes:In advance, thanks for anyone who replies to my question; it means a lot to me :).At the moment I am a "Walking Disaster"I broke up from my girlfriend a few months back and I'm still trying to get over it. To me, their was serious relationship fallout when we broke up. She goes to the same University as me and our friend groups interact, so I 'see' or 'hear' of her often. I cant stand it! I can't stand her! She's everywhere!Friends tell me I am more argumentative, serious and snappy. Plus every time i go out drinking I always get absolutely wasted and have no memory. My friend tells me 'When I'm Drunk' I look at every women as if they've broke my heart and I get really angry if they talk to me.I tell myself that tonight I wont get like that again; but I always do. I won't integrate with friends and i look at couples in disdain. I can't stop myself I've become someone i hate and i don't like myself. Seriously i am out of control. Am I just venting, has anyone gone through this same process? It's taking such along time for me to get over my ex, she was the first girl I loved and I can't seem to escape from her!!!I am just such a mess at the moment. Help?Again thanks if you read this, it means a lot to me?
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reader, beebee305  +, writes (28 October 2008):
Look I think everyone has been there beofre. I was there with my ex fiance who moved back to his home towna nd had his mother call up ad end the relationship. So needless to say we have all had our share of heartbreak. I think you just need to distance yourself from that type of behavior and crowd for a little while. There definately isnt time when you "SHOULD BE OVER IT" Look your heart is broken you need time and time is ok. But by the looks of it you ae coforting yourself with alch which int good because in the end you are going to feel worse about yourself the next day then when you went out. And trust me when you breakup normally everyone hates happy people I know I did. Its all part of healing I think right now you need to concetrate on yourself, your friens, your career etc and you will see how much you accomplish. Go ahead check her email, her myspace, whatever you need to get over it but the sooner you are showing everyone a new more confident you the happier you will be!
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