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writes:There's a guy at my school who I want to be my first. People have said that he only wants me b/c im a virgin that's very "blessed" in the way im shaped, front and back. I know for a fact that he doesn't act the same towards me as he did the other girls he f***ed. Still, when he asked if i wanted him to be my first, i didn't know he was ready to do it at that exact moment. He's made plans for us to f*** three times already and each time I make up some excuse why I can't and he gets upset. Don't get me wrong- i really want it to be him. The problem is that i'm scared that it might hurt and i'm not so sure i'm 100% ready. For a 15 year old, i'm very tight and he's nowhere near being small. How do I tell him that I'm scared to f*** without getting him mad. I tired once and he asked why i was being stubborn. He asked why I told him that I wanted to f*** but now I won't let him and its aggravating. He's known for being kind of aggressive in bed and i can't take intense pain. He wants to take my virginity on my b-day (Nov. 4) and I don't want to upset him again. I'm scared to tell him that i think i should wait a while because i don't want to get him mad again and lose him. How do I tell him that i'm just not ready without losing him??? I'm starting to think that the only thing left to do if let him f*** and get it over with and maybe things will get better, but I really don't want to just yet. I don't need a long time, i'm just not ready yet. I f***ing now the only choice i have???
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Here's an example of a nice boy: my bf told me that we didn't have to have sex till I was ready because he cared about me more than having sex. He told me I could say no at any time when it came to it. He gave me choices without a hint of anger. He waited a long time for me and never reproached me. That's the kind of boy you want to lose it to. Dump this loser who is pressuring you. Just concentrate on school work and other stuff your interested in. At 15 sex can wait. Trust me. It's better when you're older.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Okay, so this is the same story that can be found here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-be-his-first-but-im.html
What happened? I thought you told everyone how amazing they were in helping you out? You even gave a wonderful story on how you had a good night with him without "fucking". So now you bring the story back as though it's fresh and new. Are you a troll?
You also said that he wanted to take your virginity on your birthday which is Nov 1 - now you state that your birthday is Nov 4. What gives? Do you not know your birthday?
**Moderators, let's be careful about these spam questions. I believe we're getting more and more of them as of lately. Pretty soon we'll end up like Yahoo! Answers. I'm almost certain Andrew doesn't want to end up like Yahoo! Answers in that respect!
Therefore, NO ONE ANSWER THIS QUESTION! IT IS A SPAM QUESTION!
Sandman
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