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writes: My x boyfriend and me are still like really good friends and he wants to have sex... But Im still a virgin and Im affraid that it might hurt.. And I want to know if i should or not.? He told me that he doesnt want me to do stuff that i dont want to... But I was just trying to figure out if I should or not...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): my ex boyfriend is living with me and he's 17 and im 14 and we still love each other but can't go out cuz of age.He was like when your 16 we will go out cuz he just got a clean record.what im try to say is that when he moved in i had the chance to fuck him but i am scared and im a virgin so he got so pissed and im like w/e!~~!~!~! and then last night i told my friend to dare me to give him a Blow Job so she did and i gave him a blow job cuz he said once i gave him a blowjob he would have sex with me and im ok now we can fuck later he's like no i don't want to fuck a virgin and now he ain't talkin to me so i would say don't do it cuz all he probaly wants is pussy and you don't want to lose it to some one you don't love and you kno your goin to marry.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 My dear why are you considering doing this? He is no longer your boyfriend yet he wants sex with you, why did you break up? Your first time ideally would be nice if it was with someone you loved and were in a relationship with. If you are worried then dont give this a second thought, he is a bitout of order for asking you anyway, in my opinion. If he is your ex, then its cool to remain mates, but dont turn into bed partners, not a good idea. xXx
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reader, SoNzZz +, writes (25 August 2006):
 First of all sweetie...HEZ UR EX!! its so diffrent if a boyfreind asks you but your ex...i think you know the answer to this
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): Girl dont be foolish guys want sex. dont give in to cheap sex wait till ur married what greater feelin will there b to know that the only man u ever had sex with was your husband. Dont think there arent male virgin out there thats not true im 18 male and still a virgin and i know dozens of guys who still are. take care and God Bless.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 I think he is little concerned about getting your relationship back and to concerned about breaking you in, sorry to tell you but I think he wants to be the first to have sex with you and pretends to be tender by sayong he is not to obligue you in a friendly manner as if you were mates who could just have a fuck and forget, please please slow down if he's not your real boyfriend nd shows commitment let's say for at least 1 year or six months I would say no morevover considering the young you are and that maybe he has no real sex experience at all and could even get you pregnant, what would you do then? ask yourself this question
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reader, Astrid +, writes (16 August 2006):
I think he is little concerned about getting your relationship back and to concerned about breaking you in, sorry to tell you but I think he wants to be the first to have sex with you and pretends to be tender by sayong he is not to obligue you in a friendly manner as if you were mates who could just have a fuck and forget, please please slow down if he's not your real boyfriend nd shows commitment let's say for at least 1 year or six months I would say no morevover considering the young you are and that maybe he has no real sex experience at all and could even get you pregnant, what would you do then? ask yourself this question
love
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reader, caraduddy +, writes (16 August 2006):
 hi i kinda had the same problem i split up from my x-boyfriend and we did things you would do if you were together. Then 2 weeks after we did somthing he was seeing someone else it was like he didn't care. But he showed he still liked me n we still did things when he was with his girlfriend. Then he started being all horid to me and made me upset then he was nice again..and now says he does fancy me anymore?!?!.. were sort of in the same position. I don't think you should do things with this guy unless your going out. If your going out it makes you think he likes you more than doing things when he already has a girlfriend. If he wants sex with you make sure your going out and make sure he isn't going out with anybody else. Its for the best. Trust me i know. I sometimes have regrets because i should of been going out with my guy first because he turned against me after we did things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): Give yourself some respect, he is using you for sex if you allow him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): I think you need to grow up a 'bit' more before you think about anything to do with relationships. I mean, if you have to ask a question like "Should I have sex with my ex?" - then geez.
You know, I don't know anything about your ex's personality, but for those still in the dark about stuff like this, it's very easy to take advantage of someone who is still in love with that person. For example, if I was a bastard and my ex was still in love with me, and I know I can probably get her to have sex with me, all I have to say is "I miss you lots", "Can't stop thinking of you", "I know I made a mistake, and my heart pounds harder and faster every time I see you"... Acting 'sweet' and 'caring' is also very easy. All I have to do is stay close to her, ask her stuff like, "How have you been doing?", "What has been on your mind lately?". Doing sweet and caring things is also very easy - calling her, emailing her, msning her to see how she's doing. Asking her if she wants some bubble tea, drop by to give it to her, take a walk out, talk...
Geez, I remember when I was younger, I had a friend/associate who kept a massive book of 'trophies'. He was so bastardly to the point that he even segregated one side of the book for non-virgins, older women, and virgins.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): I would make sure you're back with him in a stable relationship before you guys have sex...
Think long and hard about why he's your ex in the first place... Think about if doing this is good for you...
Sex can make you feel closer... but if you break up, it will only hurt more. Just be careful!
Good luck.
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reader, beleiveitbabyx3 +, writes (15 August 2006):
beleiveitbabyx3 is verified as being by the original poster of the question me and him did go out and we constantly hang out and say I love you to each other and that we miss each other and yes he does want to get back together with me. Hes trying to get over this other girl that he likes. and they are going out but i dont like his gf and she treats him wrong all the time and tells him to shut up and i dont like it at all. and no he isnt using me for just the sex part. Because we have already done stuff and he explained to me that if he wanted to do what we did with no other emotions he wouldve got another girl to do it. And he constantly sais that he loves me and he always comes over and calls me in the middle of the night just to make sure Im okay...
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reader, midgetgem +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Hi,
As it's your first time I'd say no unless you're absolutely sure he's the one you want to loose your virginity to.
it doesn't sound like you're in love with him or that there's any feelings apart from curiosity there.
Please make sure there are feelings there for both of you before you rush in.
What ever happens, be safe!
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reader, caraduddy +, writes (15 August 2006):
Hey Hunni x I think you should be goin out with him before you do anything like that expecially because its your first time. Is this guy not interested in getting back together? or does he just want the sex? make sure he likes you in that way before you rush into anything. xx i hope you make the right decision xx
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