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writes:Im 16 years old and i am in a relationship with my girlfriend, she is 17 years old. we have been going out for almost 6 months, and i love her to bits, we are both emotionaly happy and in tune with each other but whenever i go to slide my hand down their or move in for a kiss she will either sometimes turn her face away or move my hand away and close her legs. im a really touchy feely kinda guy and i have told her how i feel numerous times. she dosent seem to get it, and as i really care about her i dont wanna dump her. id like some tips/hints/help on what i can do about this situation? any tips would be much appreciated:) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): Stop groping her between the legs and keep your hands where they belong, around her waist or holding her hand in yours for example. Im sure that should fix things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): Do not try to put more pressure on her. If she is not feeling comfortable with that then you have to understand that no means no. This is an underage girl and you should stop forcing her. If you continue doing what you are doing not only would you lose her, but you will also end up reported to the police and in fact you deserve it. Keep your hands off the poor girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): First, think where you are doing these things - if you are doing them in public, then your gf may just be embarassed about being affectionate in public (I know I am) and you should probably just give her a little space physically.Or, has it ever occured to you that she may be nervous? When I was with a boy and he was being 'very friendly' I got very embarassed and pulled away from him. And you say she closes her legs - this is a very defensive thing to do since it is protecting a very sensitive area from you. When you make advances, make sure you are in a secure, private environment, and try not to do much more than an arm around or a peck on the cheek in public if shes nervous and private
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): She just may not be as touchy feely as you are. It doesn't mean that she is not interested in being affectionate, but perhaps she isn't comfortable with so much intimacy. I once dated a guy who was very affectionate physically, and although I liked him a lot, I struggled because I am not very touchy feely. I felt like I was constantly being grabbed and touched, and sometimes I felt a bit like an object instead of a person! I'm sure he didn't mean to make me feel that way, but that was how I felt.
So maybe you could try giving her a bit more physical space, and see how that goes. You might find that she starts to initiate physical affection with you more. Again, that was how I felt. When I was left alone more, I felt more free, and that made me want to be affectionate. Maybe it's just a difference in preferences, you are very touchy feely, she is not. I know it must be painful when she turns away from you, but I'm sure it doesn't mean she doesn't care. So why not try giving her a bit of space physically, and see if it helps? Good luck. x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 February 2010):
You're coming on too strong. When a woman does that it's a clear sign she doesn't want it. Have patience with her and respect her, or you will lose her.
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