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*ukegardner1
writes:ok im 14 going on fifteen and im not a virgin but i got a problem. my girlfriend and i just recently got back together we have been together 3 times now but my question is i'm going to meet her parents and im a little bit scared that they wont like me or they will think i am a bad guy. what should i do?
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 I agree with blonde30s - at 14 you are far too young to be having sex!
Are you ready to become a father?
Is your girlfriend the same age as you? If she is, then she is also not emotionally, mentally OR PHYSICALLY ready for sex. She may think she is, but in reality she is just a child. What happens if she gets pregnant? Would she be able to cope with being a mother at 15? Would her parents support her? Would you be able to financially support her and the baby?
I dont expect her parents will approve of their underage teenage daughter having sex.
You have to prove to her parents that you are trustworthy, and from what you have said, you are not. Sex at 14 is not cool, its not clever, and it certainly isnt what a parent is looking for in a boyfriend for their underage daughter.
Dont rush into anything. Be friends with her, get to know her as a person. My advice, stop having sex until you are both mature enough to deal with the consequences and then her parents will also respect you more for being a decent boy for their daughter, who respects her enough to wait until she is of a LEGAL age.
You need to gain their respect, so try and think about something other than sex. Relationships are not just about sex, they are about friendship, fun, conversation, trust and love. At your age, you need to be focussing on those, not on sex.
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