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writes:I am 23 and my best friend is 24. I am very attracted to her and shes very aware of this. we have had plenty of encounters in which things could have happened but didnt because i felt like she was nervous and i would only act on it if we both felt it. She is in the military, therefore, she has to keep it secret at certain times. She was married at one time and told her ex-husband at a new years eve party that she was in love with me and cried on my shoulder. Since then she has a boyfriend who is also in the military and he's really insecure about our relationship. It's been killing me because i care about her so much. i know she feels the same way we just never discussed it. What should i do? How should i discuss it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Since she is in the military she does need to keep it secret or she can get in trouble and in the military anything you say even it its inocent can spread like fire. Becareful but I do think you need to address the issue. It will be hard at first but take her to a place that is not romantic and that you can talk in private. You want to lay the cards on the table and if you both decide to remain just friends so be it. She is not too sure what she wants if she has a boyfriend.MAy be she is on denial. You do need to straighten things out so you can go on either together or not. Good Luck!
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Gosh.. let the Lesbian supporters advice you... just wait.. she was married and divorced.. i should not be telling you this that shall you decide to get on with this rlshp, you shall never be happy for there was someone who got hurt out of a BLESSED marriage.. God hates divorce and so does gaysm.. accept it or not. You need to be delivered from this. i am not being 'old fashioned' but tell me why were men created then if women can just satisfy themselves. someday we shall find out the truth.. all the same.. do what your conscious tells you as we shall all be judged according to our consciousness. don't you want kids and kids that can emulate the 'proper' way... men were made for women and so did vice versa..
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