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writes:Hi Im 2 months pregnant and found out 3 weeks ago. I am very confused about what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he is 7 years old than me he says he really wants me to keep the baby and we will get married when we are old enough. My father is furious and wants me to get a abortion. My mum is dead and i have no one really to talk to. My bf is gd to me most of the time but drinks alot and is away alot also and when he gets back he can be very abuisve and on ocasions has hit me. He always says sorry after and has not done it for ages i really love him but dont know what to do i want to finish my courses and have a job and get everything sorted with us.when i talk bout abortion or adoption to my bf he gets very angry and says its his baby to i cant do it. Im really worried and confused. does any 1 have any helpful advice (btw i was on the pill so noting about using protection) plz help xxxx
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (12 June 2008):
I think that you really need to way the cons of everything.
1. abortion: It can leave you very depressed and make you feel like a bad person. It can also make it where you can never have another baby.
2. Keeping it: You might not be able to feed your baby or give it the basics or if you stay with your boyfriend he can lose his temper with the baby and hurt or even kill the baby.
3. Adoption: At the last moment you decide you cant do it. You could possibly give your baby to a bad family.
4. OPEN adoption: I cant think of a con here but in an open adoption the adoptive parents send you pictures and updates on the baby and you can even go see the baby through out its life. (The title they give you is up to them. You might be called birth mom or aunt or even friend)
I think that whatever you do it is your decision. I just wanted you to know all your options and I wanted you to think about the bad in all those decisions.
I really wish you the best of luck. Write me if you need more help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): I am really sorry that you at your age must be in a situation like this. It is not easy.
I understand that you were using the pill and that this is a totally unwanted or unplanned pregnancy.
If yur boyfriend cares so much for you and this pregnancy, why is he not offering tomarry you now? He is 7 years older then you; what is the right age to him? and why should you take the responsilility of the child on your own, whilst he wants to dictate orders?
I suggest, if he wants to have a say; he should offer his dues, and offer to marry you now.
As for yur father, bear with him; he is probably upset and dissapointed; give him time
It is your decision, and nobody else can make it for you; you have to decide what is best for you; and then also ask yourself:
are you ready to take care of a child
It is not easy and do not rush into any decision, take time to see how you feel and which option will suit you best:
Abortion
Adoption
or raising the child on your own; maybe with the support of your boyfriend/maybe alone
It is a very difficult choice and I hope you take time out, on your own, to make the right decision.
We are here if you need to talk.
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