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writes:the big question: sex? why am i scared to have sex?!i am 16 and i am scared of having sex, because i hear that it hurts the first time espeacially, and from what i see from movies, i know this will sound funny, bu when i watch movies where it happens that 2 are haiovng sex and the girl makes noises, to me it sounds like she doesnt like it and stuff...i dunno whats wrong with me!i know its a bit to early for me, as i am planning to stay a virgin till i get married, but can anyone hellp me! IO dont like talking about this with my mother, she'll go telling my father:Splzzz help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): no way are you ready and don't let eney one else tell you outher wise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Like you said, your not ready, so don't worry about it too much. However saying that it's not bad to arm yourself with as much information as you can to make it pleasurable. Great advice has already been given by others below. Yes it can hurt at first, depending on how relaxed you are and how large your partner is. Your stretching a little hole with a much larger object, and it can take time to get comfortable. You can also be a little sore for days after, a bath helps. It was so difficult my first time, that my partner started bleeding rather than me, so it is very important to make sure your first time is in a relaxed comfortable atmosphere.About the noises and the faces the people make in the movies, yea it can be like that when your having good sex. It feels kinda of like an itch that you can't scratch or a sneeze that won't come. Uncomfortable and tingly all at the same time. That's why you get the noises and the faces. Trust me when your time comes, it'll be just great.
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reader, richie005 +, writes (13 May 2008):
hi yo shouldnt be scared of having sex ,sex s a natural thing that happens between a man and a woman ,when and you should try to talk to your parents about , your parents can teach you alot more then you think
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Sex is wonderful, and I don't just mean the act of intercourse. The physical enjoyment of another human body interacting with yours in so many, many ways is probably the greatest joy any person can experience.
And to experience at its very, very best, you need to wait. You need to do exactly what you are doing - wait until you find the right person. Once he comes along, then suddenly it won't all seem so frightening, because he will be the one that you want to do it with and he will be the one who gives you that unique pleasure. If you can stay a virgin until you find him, which very few girls do (I didn't), then it will be something very special indeed.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Hi, I think that there's nothing wrong with you. You're still young and have lots of time to grow up and learn more about life and the 'adult' things that everyone faces as they get older.
I wouldn't spend much time worrying about it at this point, because when the time is right for you, you will be ready, especially if it is with a man who loves and respects you!
The first time often is scary, but again, in the context of a loving relationship, it can be a beautiful and amazing shared experience. And if it hurts, it's only for a little while, and most women aren't put off by it enough to never do it again. So don't worry about that now.
I make oohing and aahing noises when I eat a really rich dessert, or when I get a really good back scratch, and I suppose someone just listening would think that I was in pain! But it's just happy sounds.
So relax and don't worry. Things will be fine when you're ready to enjoy sharing this intimate bond with your husband. Really and truly, you'll be just fine.
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reader, AkasunaNoSasori +, writes (13 May 2008):
 You're too young to have sex if you ask me and don't listen to what the media says about sex because for the most part they're all lies, save yourself for when you meet the one you love and by then you'll know you're ready, hope this helps!!
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