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writes:Ok, I'm going a little crazy here. I've always thought I was straight, if I thought about it at all. I've just always been attracted to guys, but also I've always been more comfortable with guys because I don't fit in with most girls my age. Anyway, this year at college there's a girl in two of my classes who I first noticed because I couldn't tell if she was male or female and later noticed because she seemed to be the kind of girl I could actually get along with. I now stare at her a lot, think she's beautiful, dream about her, and am just generally crushing on her.It's taken me totally by surprise that I could like a girl this much - not to mention that I never considered how complicated it would be to like someone of the same sex! How do I even know if she's into girls, let alone interested in me?!
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reader, gemgem1088809  +, writes (5 November 2009):
 Just go with it sweetie!! I felt exactly the same about a girl when I was 15 but I thought exctly the same, How do I find out if she is into girls, does she like me back? The best way I think to approach this is to befriend her and find out if you have things in common before you jump in with the, I have a crush on you do you like girls sort of thing. That's eventually how I got with my girlfriend. Unfortunately it didnt work out between us but that doesn't mean to say it will not work for you! I am bisexual by the way.... or greedy as most people in the UK call it!! If there is any more info I can give let me know!!!
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (5 November 2009):
 I think that its wonderful that you're open to all of the feelings that you're having but appreciate that it could be very confusing.
You like this girl and you're thinking about her a lot, but it doesn't mean you're into girls, it just means you have something for this one.
There is no real way of telling if she's into women or not but you could try to get to know her as a friend and just enjoy your secret crush for a while?
Sometimes crushes disappear on their own, sometimes they push us in a direction we didn't see comming, but eventually they figure themselves out.
Good luck with everything, hang in there, you're not alone.
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