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writes:My friends, am back again yet with another issue,what happened last saturday is something i did without thinking and i didnt now the outcome,we were having drinks with my boyfriend and two of his friends and one of his friend brought another friend from another city, then my boyfriend left me and i was left with the other guys and then i got tired and cold i had to go home,then there was this argument of the other friend wanting to go another pub which my sister and her inlaws and i made a promise that i will meet her there which i didnot because i as tired i just wanted to go home and rest but now the problem came because the owner of the car didnt want to stay out too long and refused to drop their other friend and he asked me if he could crash into my house and because i saw that he was from onather town and not familiar with our town i say there was no problem, and in the morning i told my boyfriend what happenned and now my boyfriend is so mad and he says he does not trust me anymore which i understand i have said am sorry and i didnot do anything with this person even if he slept in my house.Am so confused and what do i do to gain his trust back and how to make him believe and we should get back to the normal us as we used to do.I did not cheat on him for i have no intentions of doing so.what should i do?am having sleepless nights. Reply to this Question
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 I think your bf could be mad that you had a stranger crash at your place because it could have been dangerous for you.
Is he accusing you of cheating? That is his problem.
You can not MAKE someone believe you or trust you again. They just do over time and watching your consistent actions.
Has there been a history of cheating in either of your pasts?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 Well actually he is the one that has the problem here not you, if he cannot trust you well then that is his problem. You were completely honest with him and told him straight away that this guy slept in your house, you didn't hide anything from him and if he doesn't believe you well then it is obvious he doesn't trust you, and sweetie a good basis to any relationship is trust. If he doesn't trust you well then there is no point in you both being together.
You never done anything wrong, you were helping out someone in need as you knew they needed a place to stay. He should be able to trust you. There is nothing you can do here. You have already told him that nothing happened so now it is up to him to make the next move.
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