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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI started seeing this man Ben in may. I have known off him and to say hello to for the last 2 years. I before was in a relationship after being single randomly ben started getting in contact with me via email. he seemed very keen and asked for my number and we met up a couple off times. he really liked me was very nic e, and my friends really liked him. the first week or so we spent a bit off time together not all the time but met a few times and was always taxting. then it got to the stage where i really had fallen for him so i asked what was going on, we decided to start a realtion ship. because it was early dasys we decided 2 take things slow. after a few weeks i looked at his mobile phone while i was drunk and accussed him off cheating, there was nothing there at all. i was just thinking of and excuse as i have been cheated on before. i relasse now why did i do that when there was nothing on his phone!!!!!! thing were weird the next day he was obvisouly pissed off, hge didnt speak 2 me for a few days. he then came round we got together but then i texted him and then when i didnt get a respond straight away i accussed him of cheating again and basically told him to fuck off. i didnt hear from him for a week or so but then i got back in touch and told him it wasnt me that sent that texts i had my phone stolen. im not sure if he belived me but yeah right. we then we re just seeing each other every now and then he never suggest to go out, it was just sex then that. he never texted me any more only when he wanted sex and ysally that by instant message. i then got really drunk when round there told him i loved him and wanted more. he explained he wasnt ready for a realtion ship and i basiclly fucked up when i looked at his phone and then after as i kept calling him when there was no respond. i mad a right dick off my self was calling him all the names under the sun, then would not leave hios phone. he stared yelling and really wnated me out i was a com[lete night marre eould not ove and was crying. he said i could stay in sepraterare beds but i kept waking him up and would not sleep. then i finally [assed out after about 3 hours. i then decided another aonther, but now after two weeks off me not contacting him, he has contacted me i was out of the area the first time, but then i stayed there the other night. every thing was ok and we didnt mention yeah it was just sex thow. he hasnt texted me or anything. i really like him i reliasse i fucked up big time. where do i stand? i know i have scared him off and i have been a real pain. what do i do? surely he must like me if he is contacting me, and i have been a right pain and trust me he has put up with a lot of shit and if it was the other way round i would of told him 2 fuck off a long time ago. things arnt how they were we dont go out he does not send me random texts but then i think he wants 2 take things slow. please help i am in love with him, i wanne take it slow now but i dont want 2 lose him? what do u think doess he wanne be with me or is he just using me for sex? he says he isnt raady 4 a realtion ship now, what 2 do? do i wait?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): Aww.. you poor sweetheart!! The man has made it clear honey that he is just interested in the sex (you said so yourself!) If he was really into you it would take more than you lookin in his phone to put him off!!!How old is this man? - you didnt say.I feel bad for you hun cos ive been twice in that situation and am still nursing a broken heart!!If I were you, i would cut off contact with this guy from now and dont answer any 'bootycalls' from him!!Hope your okay though and once I hear your reply to this i willk see if i can help some more!1Good luck sweetheart![Plaintive moderator plea: PLEASE don’t use textspeak abbreviations like ‘u’ for ‘you’ and ‘ur’ for ‘your’. This answer might have been rejected for publication because of it. I chose to take the time to edit it. Thank you for helping keep DearCupid user and reader-friendly.]
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