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*orilla fingers
writes:i've met this woman 8 months ago.we're both separated and get on brilliant.she has 4 wonderful kids and i have 1.at first we were friends and still are but i have strong feelings for her and she knows that.she even told me 3 weeks ago that she was falling for me big time,but then 2 weeks later she contacted me sayin she couldn't feel the spark but we'd stay good friends..she still texts every day and calls me a few times a week.her sister even said to her to give it time as she's only a year out of her marriage where i'm 3 years out of mine..i absolutely adore her but don't know what to do.
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reader, gorilla fingers +, writes (15 February 2012):
gorilla fingers is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thank you to those who have taken time to give me advice..i know she has an awful lot going on in her life at the minute and god love her...her head is all over the place with stuff going on with her ex..we'll remain friends anyway as she's a fantastic lady and we do have a good laugh..i wouldn't walk away from anyone like that..ok some of you may call me soft...but i'd never turn my back on a friend..its not my personality...i'll just give her time and space and see ahat happens.
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reader, uroboros  +, writes (12 February 2012):
u know, if there's no sparks there's no relationship, u share something that's called friendship.
either there is chemistry or there isn't and u can do nothing about it i'm affraid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): you can wait for a month.. what say?
I think she needs space as well but it could be any other thing as well...
Talk to her if you really like her.. Ask her why she changed her mind..
Then accordingly (based on what she says i.e if she gives you some good reason) just tell her you have strong feelings for her and that you want to explore the possibilities.. and her going from "falling for you" to "just be friends" has left you bewildered...
If she says she is not interested and she just wants to be friends.. then its upto you..
If she says she wants space.. then I'm afraid you'll have to wait it out..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): She has maybe listened to advice, about not rushing into another relationship. I would give her some space and let her see what she wants, whats best for her. She has at least told you and not strung you along.
What you do is your choice, give her time or walk away,but she can't expect you to turn off your feelings so perhaps no contact would be best, could be missing you will help too.
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