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writes:Right, this is going to take a little while to explain...So, I've liked this boy (lets call him Zac) for about 2 years. He's intelligent, very funny, charismatic, charming, cute - everything I want from a guy. We've always got on really well, but he likes this other girl (lets call her Jane), and this is where the problem starts. I, being quite shy, never dared to tell him how I felt. I gave subtle signs, and he gave some back - a LOT (and loads and loads of flirting went on.) Last week I was round my friends house. We were just talking when she asked me who I fancied (I was pretty sure she had some idea already), and she sifted through the names of the boys in our class to her hearts content until, finally, she said Zac. You can bet I blushed then, because she grinned and said "you fancy him, don't you?" "Maybe..... yes, yes I do." I replied. Part of me actually WANTED it out in the open after all this time...Now, the real problem starts at school today. I was in one of my lessons, and my friend was sitting next to Zac. Of course, she mouthed across the classroom, "shall I ask him out for you?" I shook my head, and then just tried to ignore her. Perhaps at this point I should mention that this 'friend' has often been quite inferior to me, and can get jealous and offended easily, even when you don't consider the fact that she's a downright b***h. At the end of class she returns to me with a list, its a list of the girls that Zac would go out with (1 being the most, and 10 being the least). I find my name at number 6, and I'm absolutely devastated (I'm not being vain, I just thought he liked me more), and Jane's name is at number 1. One of my other friends (who Zac said he didn't even like!) is above me, followed the names of a few other girls which I didn't even thought he liked much either.Then the friend holding the list said that she told him someone in our class fancied him. I got a bit angry with her, I'll admit, but it wasn't even her secret to tell! I could have sworn I saw Zac stare at me in fear and disgust half way through the lesson, and I supposed that he'd guessed I was the girl in love with him. At lunch I saw Zac a lot, but I didn't say a word to him - just spared him a few dirty looks. In return he didn't even seem to notice me, which hurt more than it should, because I thought he'd at least ask me what's wrong if I looked upset - which I clearly did.In our final lesson of the day, I was chatting with my friend about it all. I felt very vulnerable, and told her how I felt about him, and how naive I was to think he liked me back. I even told her about the flirting... and she said he flirts with EVERY girl! I know, now, that I should NEVER have done that - because now all my emotions rested on the unreliable shoulders of this girl who pretended to like me, but didn't. For all I know, she could have recorded my heart-felt words on her phone (yes, she WOULD do that), or despite my pleas for her to keep silent about the subject, she might just blurt it out to Zac. The girl who he claims to like doesn't even like him back, but I absolutely adore him! I just don't know what I've done wrong, I'm even prettier than her! I'm so scared that it'll all be revealed to him soon... Please, please help me! What should I do?!
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reader, xcountry7  +, writes (4 March 2010):
if she does tell him then ignore it cause my friend did that to me and now meand the guy are totolly cool
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 If you fancy him then just ask him out on a date. Remember boys are shy too, he may like you a lot but is too shy to ask you.
I was 12 when I really liked this girl at school, I could see she liked me too this went on for months. In the end my friend told her I liked her and the rest was history.
Actually is long history now, it didnt work out. We dated for 4 whole months.
ces't la vie.
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