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writes:Hello.I've just turned 18, and I have recently discovered hypnotism.Well, actually, I was aware of it before, but I've just started looking at it in a new light. It has just come to mind that hypnotism and Sex combined is quite a turn on for me. Is that sound strange to anyone?The idea of controlling, or being in the control of somebody is developing into a real fantasy for me. I wonder now if it could really work. Maybe it doesn't have to, maybe pretending would be fun(?) It seems less fun than ligitimately hypnotizing somebody.Anyway, what's your opinion? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhhh, I feel much more relaxed now that you understand me! That's great.Your story was very interesting too, and I'm glad things are working for you! :D
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reader, stina  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 lol ^_^ I understand you now! Well, I'll just tell you my experience --
I used to be totally introverted and didn't want to talk to anyone at all or go anywhere. Once I attended hypnotherapy sessions, I got passed that way of thinking. When I began to talk to people and actually enjoy it, I felt that something was different in a very positive way. Like I would think "I can't believe I'm actually doing this - and it's not bothering me!" It was very liberating. I was doing it because of the hypnosis - because I wanted to change - but now it WAS also because of my own free will. All of that gets intermingled. So in short:
Free will = Feeling Normal
Free will along with hypnosis = Feeling liberated; getting a positive boost, almost like feeling like you have more energy all of a sudden
I know that my experience has nothing to do with sex, but I could imagine it opening doors to many things for some people. So it must be great to feel a positive boost or more energy during sex. lol
So - I think you'd know the difference between the two. But if you don't, then that's good in its own right, right? (You're right...this is confusing!)
I hope I've added to the conversation somehow...instead of just confused the hell out of everyone. haha ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): Yeah if your girlfriend wanted to have sex with you then she will be able to perform whilst in a trance. Actually you could probably really have some fun as hypnosis works well at enhancing and bringing on orgasms
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionApologies. My grammar isn't the best. I think you almost understood what I meant, so let me try it again. IT'S SOOOO difficult to explain!!!:
Say, I was hypnotized.
I'm not sure I would no the difference between:
Doing something in a trance, under the influence of a hypnotist, but yet of my own free will
and
Simply doing something of my own free will.
I hope that made sense. If anyone THINKS they know what I'm talking about, please try to explain it better than I have, lol. Perhapps you, Doctor?
Anyway, onto the other part. Yes, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, I was just simply asking for opinions on it. It wouldn't have mattered to me if people thought the idea was ok or not. It's just a little discussion.
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reader, stina +, writes (19 July 2007):
Sorry - but I don't understand what you mean here: "I don't know where you draw the line between; being completely aware of what's happening and just pretending you're hypnotized." You mean if you were to pretend with someone? Because if you're seriously undergoing hypnotherapy, you don't pretend to be hypnotized at any point. So I guess you'd have to discuss that with your partner. (You are using a lot of phrases/sentence fragments, so I'm not really sure if I understand you - sorry!)
Let's get back to your original question, then. Is wanting to pretend to use hypnosis on someone to have sex with you strange? Personally, I don't think so; it's just another form of role playing and domination (which I stated earlier).
And besides, why does it matter what any of us think anyway? (Serious question.) I mean, who you should really be asking is your partner and the question should probably be more along the lines of "Would you be comfortable pretending to be hypnotized?" Don't you think?
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (19 July 2007):
 If you have someone you are confortable with, and involved with, you could ask their permission to do this. As long as they consect ahead of time and you are completely trustworthy it would be ok. Kind of like tieing someone up, right? Consent is the important thing here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know why some of you people just assume that it'd be used for rape! That's just absurd!! Part of me can't actually believe that that's the first thing you thought of!!
I would ONLY EVER do this with a partner who I'm comfortable with, and have already shared physical love with. Jesus, maybe I didn't make it clear enough, but I can't believe rape was the first thing that crossed your minds!!
Not that you assumed this, Stina, or anything, but I'd like to quickly move on to you. When I say "Just go along with it" I don't mean; just do something you're not comfortable with anyway. I meant; Just pretend that you're hypnotized. I don't know where you draw the line between; being completely aware of what's happening and just pretending you're hypnotized.
As for you, doctor, it's interesting to meet somebody who is qualified in this field. I sort of get what you're saying. I'm starting to get the idea that; Say, I was with somebody who loved me, and would quite happily have sex with me, and do anything she wanted to/with me, you're saying that she wouldn't be able to.. say, perform, under a trance?
I will quickly repeat to everyone: My intention was never to use hypnotism for rape. Not only is that not possible, it's just disgusting, and I'm still a little rattled that that's the first thing some of you guys thought of. Maybe that was my fault, but who knows? And anyway, my original question was about whether my original scenario that turns me is wierd, not about my intentions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): I am a qualified hypnotherapist, first off you can pretty much hypnotise anyone, the only people who can't go in to hypnosis are those who have an IQ too low to understand instructions. The only other thing that can stop someone from going in to hypnosis is fear.
The thing about sex under hypnosis is a bit of a grey area. There is one highly documented case of a British hypnotherapist in the US who got charged for rape as he was secretly recording having sex with one of his clients. The American media went crazy saying he raped her whilst she was hypnotised, I guess that sounds more shocking, but I think it is much more likely that he coerced her over a period of time. But remember it is quite easy for any person in authority to coerce someone so hypnosis probably had little to do with it.
It isn't so much that people loose their inhibitions under hypnosis either, it is because suggestions bypass the critical factor in the conscious part of your brain and are then directly accepted by your unconscious. The unconscious can't distinguish between reality and fantasy, so a hypnotist who could establish rapport with a client could then coerce a person in to doing things their critical conscious mind would have a problem with. Having said that though, no matter how deep you hypnotise someone (you can put people in catatonic states and deeper using hypnosis) there is always a part of their mind that is in the present. If you, for example, blurted out "I'm going to have sex with you" or just started inappropriately touching them, they'd likely immediately open your eyes fully aware of whats going on.
Hypnotherapists are taught that you can't hypnotise someone to do something that they don't want to do, but I think you can certainly work at changing someones belief system whilst they are under hypnosis using all sorts of language techniques. It's a bit creepy though isn't it?? Maybe you have some kind of fetish, you should find a girlfriend who is willing to be hypnotised, a guy on my course swears by that. None of us are quite sure whether to believe him though.....
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reader, stina +, writes (19 July 2007):
But anonymous, you don't "just go along with it" at any point. You will never do what you don't feel comfortable doing. But if you *want* to have certain qualities, then you will work to achieve that goal. But you will only allow yourself to keep going if it's what you really want.
I'm not sure which publications you've read or who you've been speaking to, but I feel as though you've been mislead about what actually happens. Have you spoken with anyone who does this for a living - a doctor? Have you read any books by doctors? Have you spoken to anyone who has been through hypnotherapy sessions? (When I went through them, I only did what I felt comfortable doing. And it took many sessions to accomplish my goals.)
Like I said, to me, it seems like you've just been reading about hypnosis from the entertainment end of things. Hypnosis doesn't work instantly - nor do people "just go along with it." It takes time and a want to achieve a goal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): Hello Anonymous,
You are actually thinking of domination, not hypnotism. To try and hypnotize a woman (or man) without their permission and then have sex with them is rape. It is illegal and not tolerated by any court in this country - you would be prosecuted heavily. Instead, you should find a partner that you are generally comfortable with socially ans sexually - this will increase the trust factor between you. Talk about what fantasies you have and communicate what you both are willing to explore. If you have no partner now, put an ad on craig's list, in the casual get togethers section, be specific, and honest, about what you are seeking. See what happens. Good luck, practice safe sex, and No raping allowed!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe both of you are right. But if I may justify myself a minute; I have done research on it. I know that you are totally aware of what you're doing whilst in a trance.. I'm just not sure I know where you draw the line from being in a trance and then just "going along with it". You know?
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reader, stina +, writes (19 July 2007):
Hello Anonymous,
I don't think you fully grasp what hypnotism is all about. It seems like you've only read about/seen the entertainment side of it (which isn't real). I suggest actually researching it.
I think you're just into dominating someone and role playing... That's my opinion.
Take care.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 July 2007):
 You can't make anyone do something against their will even hypnotised but it can cause them to lose some of their inhibitions. Some people can't even BE hypnotized. But if you find a willing partner then go for it.
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