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writes: Hi all,I am happily married for over 20 years, with children. My husband is great in bed, he can make me come several times a night and I have no further need for anything else. Problem is, he wants to explore the wilder side of sex, and since I'm not ok with him sleeping around, he wants me to sleep around!The only condition is, I will always love him more. He doesn't care if I have NSA sex with new guys or have a regular emotionally attached guy. He even says if the guy is right, he'll join us. He offered to help me look for the right guy, but I'm not comfortable.I have gotten over the "why" stage, and truly believes that this is what he needs to get certain things out of his system. We have tried erotic massages with male and female therapists. I've gone as far as letting him do it anally with me, but he keeps bringing up the subject of me finding a boyfriend, though he promised me that he doesn't want me to be pressured into it.I am curious too, but I don't want to just go out and have sex with other people, especially when I doubt they can be as good as my husband in bed. I've only been with one guy before I married my husband. The best scenario is for the right guy to come after me and if I like him maybe then things will happen. I'm confident that I am attractive but I don't know how to go out and find men, I don't know what to do. Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): If you too want it, do it, if you don't never try. Find a man far from your home, a male escort is the best or an "erotic massage" centre. It is good to spice up your sex life but not with a "boyfriend", only with an anonymous person.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 Hmm, honestly... This is what I think. He wants YOU to get a BF, so he can get a GF or a sexual experience with MMF. This is not really about you or what you want but what HE wants.
I would shot his idea down ASAP. Specially if this is not something you really want to do.
Also the majority of marriages tend to fall apart when "experimenting" with adding more people to the marriage bed. Not all fantasies HAVE to be lived out. Some can stay fantasies forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): You are playing with fire if you think you can handle introducing another man into your relationship without any complications. I have heard of many couples who ultimately break up over these kind of things. Think very carefully as once something is done it can not be undone, something of the bond between you is broken and regret is the only result.
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