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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I recently got a new job and my husband was very excited for me. i am a broker for a shipping, trucking company and in the office it is just me and an older un attractive guy that is my boss. My husband came to my work to have me sign some papers and the door was locked, when he came into my office he asked why the door was locked, I told him I didnt know i assumed it was safety issues that it is only the two of us and only callers are who we do business with so i would think it would be locked because of that. He left pissed off and called me so furious thinking i was cheating on him and that we were doing something that is why the door was locked. I told him no I wasn't cheating and nothing was happening between the boss and I. he still insists that there is something going on and is pissed nothing I say will make him believe me..What do i do
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reader, lovetokissyou  +, writes (9 March 2010):
I agree with one of the readers that sometimes one things of others as thay themselfs think of them. people that cheat offten think that there partner is cheating , Try and sit down with him and get this sorted out. Maybe there is a bylaw that says the door must be locked at all times or company rules. you could look into that if u think it could help. other then that show him that he is the only guy on your mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): But why was the door locked?:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): I wonder if when you started your new job he felt threatened by the change, although he was be excited for you he might also have worried that in a new environment, alone with a man, you might become close. If that was on his mind anyway then finding the door locked just added to his own insecurities.
There's nothing you've done wrong here at all and what a horrible situation to be in. If talking at home is getting you both no where, the services of a marriage counsellor would really help, they can act as a mediator in your discussions and they have a lot of experience and can help your husband get rid of his insecurity and help you both to talk calmly.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (6 March 2010):
 I wouldn't do anything to prove myself. No means no. You already talked too much. Let him torment himself with those thoughts. He is doing this to himself. Don't take part in it and give energy to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): Unfortunately, people tend to think other things about people that they themselves are either fearful or guilty of doing themselves. Sit down and talk to him about it. Ask him if besides this locked door incident, if there is anything else you have done to make him believe you and your boss are having an affair. Really listen without interpreting his statements. Discuss it. If he can't handle the conversation something may be up with him!
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (5 March 2010):
Offer to take a lie detector test. Google it for testing facilities near you.
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