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anonymous
writes:Hey, I am a 36 year old and married for 17 years. Although my husband is very very nice and caring, he never was romantic and always had a real low drive. Now its come to a stage that once a month, that even if i approach him and he is up to it then. I have tried talking to him several times and also mentioned my drive is alot more then his. But he does not think that there is anything wrong with him and once a month of less is more then enough. He is such a bore, who would not like to introduce anything new, not into lingeres etc... just straight to point.I have tried talking to him several times. I know I make an effort dressing up and have many passes from outsiders on how well i look and how lucky my hubby is to have me, just that he does not appreciate anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): it is normal for long and stable marriage and age factor that you and he are in. I would say give it time. do not bring up this topic, else it will put him under pressure and will be even worse for sex life and relationship. generally hormonal changes are continuous in people life and they go up and down.
so you need to adjust to all these issues in life. Give time , have stress free life in you and him and he will be ok again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): sex therapy, if he doesn't want to kick him on his nuts.. its of no use anyways:|
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): I'm sorry, I do not seem to understand your description of him. You said he was caring and yet you then go on to say that he was never romantic. If he wasn't romantic, how could he possibly show care if not a false care? Romance is about both people in a relationship, if there is not romance then wouldn't that mean there is no care either? It seems to me that your husband, if he never was romantic, never truly cared about you either.
When you talked to him, did he ever truly listen or was he just nodding his head to everything you said? Do you know how he truly feels? I'm sorry but it truly seems as though he has no love for you whatsoever. Or maybe he is going through something else? You said it that 'now' it was down to once a month, how often was it before? Something has changed, I think you need to find out what exactly has changed.
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