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writes:Hi is it normal for my husband to be texting a woman in the cafe where he goes? he is a lorry driver and stops in the cafe most but not everyday. i found out he has been texting her 7 times a day starting as early as 7am just after he leaves the house then 6 more times during the morning last ones always around 2pm. this is the time she closes the cafe as she owns it.she texts him more than he texts her and they ring each other during the day but he deletes all texts and calls between them before he gets home from work. i know this because i have access to his phone bill on the pc. it got the better of me and after 3 weeks of him phoning and texting her everyday i confronted him. he was quite shocked and just said she sends me jokes and sometimes asks me to get her some cigs thats all he could say. trouble is there are 6 days in the 3 weeks when he didnt go to that cafe but still text and phoned her on them days but always stopped 2pm or a little after, he can not give me a decent answer and when i ask him he just ignores me. I dont like being lied to and he said he deleted everything because he knew i would get the hump and take it the wrong way.well after i confronted him he stopped the texts and calls but i then found out he had been phoning her from his work phone because he forgot to delete some off the calls again i confronted him and he just makes something up like she wanted to know if he wanted to sell his van because hers had broke down. i also found out that about the time the texts and calls started she had split up with her husband but he failed to tell me that either since then her ex husband sold the cafe so i dont no what she does now but my husband has still phoned her from his work phone he knows i dont like it and im insecure but hes still i in touch with her. i dont know what to think is it me just being stupid and insecure thing is if it was me doing the same thing behind his back he would have been long gone need some advise please!!!tracy!!
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reader, Maddie58 +, writes (21 March 2013):
Thank you i no there is more to it but hes always got a good answer and is a very good liar,he now deletes every text and phone call from his phone before he gets home from work,i just think if they were just good friends why didnt they text when he was at home and weekends and the thing that makes me laugh is he says he carnt text and asks me how to spell words and acts like a dumb arse,i really dont no what to do now we have been married 22 years he never goes out only on friday night after work for a couple off hours with work mates but i did catch him last year before all these texts started he forgot to delete a text he sent her on a friday pub night it just said are you going in your van!!! and then he text ok! but he had deleted her text and this was at 4.45pm before he went to pub need help on this i dont no what to do thank you.
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reader, Maddie58 +, writes (21 March 2013):
Thank you i know there is more to it but hes always got a good answer and is a very good liar, he now deletes every text and phone call from his phone before he gets home from work, i just think if they were just good friends why didnt they text when he was at home and weekends and the thing that makes me laugh is he says he cant text and asks me how to spell words and acts like a dumb arse, i really dont know what to do now we have been married 22 years he never goes out only on friday night after work for a couple of hours with work mates but i did catch him last year before all these texts started he forgot to delete a text he sent her on a friday pub night it just said are you going in your van!!! and then he text ok! but he had deleted her text and this was at 4.45pm before he went to pub need help on this i dont know what to do thank you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 March 2013):
 It would not be ok for me if my husband was carrying on an emotional affair with another woman. And that is what's going on here.
IF you tell him to stop and he does not, he's not willing to give her up for you.
If you two have been married a long time and things are a bit "boring" perhaps you need to really shake up his world and make him choose you or her.
The problem is you take a risk and he may pick her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2013): In my opinion it's not okay for him to be messaging her that often. Yes,they could just be friends, but since he lied to you about and was deleting messages I doubt that's the case.As his wife you should come first and since him texting her and everything makes you uncomfortable, he should stop. Change his number and just stop.I know people say they could just be friends, but it usually leads to more, especially since he attempted to hide it from you.I don't think you are just being insecure, I wouldn't be comfortable with my husband messaging another woman at all hours of the day and taking her things and what not.Is she not a grown woman? Can she not get her own things that she needs instead of having a married man do them for her? It all sounds fishy.I don't know if this helped you at all, I hope it did.
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