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female
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51-59,
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writes:I don’t get much satisfaction from sex with my husband. I’m giving him his pleasure and feeling unfulfilled myself. I’m 51 he’s 55 years old. He will only say now and then do I want oral because this is the only way I can come and he knows this. It’s like I want to make him happy in the bedroom but not myself and wonder why I do it.He’s not bothered if I get my pleasure or anything out of having sex and is just happy to lie there and take it. I just seem to have sex for the sake of having it. I like to have it at least 3 times a week but unless I use my hand to come I’m left there feeling nothing. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2022): Maybe you would enjoy it more if you used your hand on yourself while he was inside you? Also, sounds to me like more communication might make you both happier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2022): Maybe his sex-drive is lower than yours. Have you asked him why he doesn't need more sex? Maybe he's just satisfied having sex now and then. He might also find sex with you unpleasant. You can't force people to want what they don't want. Ask him if he is having an affair?
Introspect on how you treat him overall, and how you get along. You may discover a few things you're overlooking in your marriage. If you're a mean, temperamental, and unpleasant individual; it will dampen your attractiveness, and kill your sex-life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2022): So, do not have sex 3 times a week, it's not doctor's orders! If to get your pleasure basically it always ends that you have to masturbate - then masturbate already when you are in the mood !, don't worry about him , if you keep him a bit "hungry " maybe that will keep him keen and more inclined to be proactive.That's less cynical than it sounds, you also have to consider that maybe your sex drives are, or have become ,mismatched.Not all the men in their mid 50s are willing or able to have sex 3 times a week, it may be that he would gladly do it less ,and he complies just to keep the peace at home and keep you quiet, but then obviously he won't be that inventive or ardent or proactive if he is not really in the mood.
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