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writes: Well, well where to start...I started dating this guy almost 2 years ago, it was amazing he swept me off my feet made me feel like no other guy has ever we spent all of our time together, then all of a sudden he changed and was very protective and had to know where I was 24/7...if I took 15 mins to long at the storefor him he would freak out. He purpously got me pregnant as he said he wanted a child, but then he cheated on me when i was 5 months pregnant, I only found out as the other girl and her friends found me on the famous facebook and kept telling me my boyfriend cheated on me and how do i like it and i asked him bout it, he said that it never happened, the harassing emails continued and they were saying that this other girl was having his baby he still denied it untill a few months later I had backed him up saying he would never, hes not like that. It finally came out after we got into an argument and he admited it all to me, i was devistated.I forgave him (stupid move) and moved on, then after having his child, I found he was talking to a girl online and the conversations between them were horrible and painful to read as he was telling this woman he was not with me but that he had to put up with me because of the baby, he went on cam with her and did really disturbing things, he denied it at first when I confronted him about it... and would lie about who was calling when it was her. Once again....I moved on from it.he started taking off at random times and in the middle of the night with his friends, he started ignoring me rarely talking to me yet when I bring it up he says he wants to be with me and only me... I found out hes been going out and visiting with his EX. Obviously this has turned me half crazy with non trust.At this present time, he doesnt really have anything to do with his child and does not contribute anything to him, hardly speaks to me unless I say something.., I feel so hurt, and stupid.I know what I have to do, but I dont know how to do it, I do love him very much and it hurts me to think if I leave he will just move right along with the next girl...I did so much for him, and with 2 kids now im afraid to be ALONE.How do you move on, and get over someone who you love so very much and tried so hard to make things work, when you have a child together...its not like i can just say forget you and never have to deal with him again...I kind a have to as I would never not let his family see the baby which they absolutely love...and id have to see his aswell...I just want the hurt to stop and I want to move on...I have reconected with a guy from my past who was a really good friend to me, we had our "thing" but we were still friends no matter what. We got together for a couple beer as the kids were at the grandparents, the first time i had seen h im in a year and a half, i had a great time...made me feel great bout myself untill i went to go pick up the kids and have my boyfriends mom tell me that my boyfriend went out after finding out i had gone out....and it bothered me...WHY??? when He treats me like crap and I know this, makes me feel like nothing, is a deadbeat father. You would think after everything he has done I would be able to move on from it and tell him its over and be confident in that...yet I cant.What do I do?? help!!Hurting and want it to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): You, girl, are in big trouble. Get some professional help. There is some phsycological dependency going on here. Don't let fear control your life. Too bad children are involved, but you realy need to get out of that situation.
You need physically to get away from the guy, don't see him, don't talk to him, don't answer e-mail, don't try to contact him yourself. That's the only way.You need to love yourself first, that you'll see what happens. Good luck
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