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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years on and off. He has 2 children from a previous relationship who accused me of being with him for money. We were due to get married 18 months ago but he ended the relationship 6 months before the wedding. We worked together so I still saw him 5 days a week which was hard. After 9 months he started to suffer some personal issues and started to depend on me heavily and decided he wanted to give our relationship another go. After 4 months he ended the relationship again after an argument broke out. He was very hurtful during the argument and said some very unforgivable things. I was devastated and went away for 2 weeks with a friend to help me through the breakup. I went back to work and things were a bit tense for a while but gradually got better with time and we eventually became very close friends again. During the next 12 months he faced a series of personal and financial problems, he lost nearly everything but I stood by him and helped him out financially giving him all my savings, and saving the roof over his and his kids head. I was on he end of the phone 24/7 whenever he needed me, my family welcomed him back into our home and fed him when he had no money. He convinced me he had changed and really wanted it to work this time, yet 3 months on I can see the signs the same as the 2nd time around. I constantly feel like the relationship drags me down because i never know where I stand or when he'll end it next or why for that matter. I feel I have given so much for this man, but got very little in return and feel a little resentful because of that.I really don't know what to do any more, it's causing me so much upset and sleepless nights. I am angry at myself for letting him back into my heart, but I don't feel I have the strength to get over yet another broken heart from him.Please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): Thank you both for your kind words of support. I already know deep in my heart the answers to my own questions, I guess sometimes you need that push or confirmation from someone else that you are doing the right thing.Tonight is confirmation enough that things will never change. Here I am sat here alone on new years eve while he celebrates it with his children. When I asked can't we all spend it together, he told me his family don't like other people to come over.I guess I should make some new years resolutions for me.Thanks again, an happy new year to you all.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): I truely believe you are an amazing women for even doing half the things you have done. You deserve to be happy what ever you choose. I think you deserve someone who is going to be loyal to you and help you out just as much as you've helpt them. You could still be friends with the guy but the way he treats you isn't fair or healthy. You deserve better.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 December 2009):
End it now. This guy hasn't changed at all, and he's doing nothing but hurting you. You deserve to know where you stand and you deserve a guy who treats you far better than this. End it and move on.
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