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26-29,
anonymous
writes:So this girl I dated for 2 years her and I broke up like 3 weeks ago. Before we broke up I was a real jerk to her for example when she would ask me a question I would answer it like I didn't care. I didn't do anything that bad I would never cheat on a girl or hit a girl but still I was a jerk and I know I was wrong. But a week after we broke up she said that she still wanted to go to prom with me and of course I said yes. Before we went to prom I would always give her rides to school and home so one time before we got to the car she kissed me. After that we went to prom and she was kissing me and all over me that night. After prom I thought we would get back together but then I find out that shes now talking to some other guy. She also says she doesn't want to get back together and I feel like they've had sex or came close to it.But that's not important really I just want to know How wrong was I? Was she wrong? And is it healthy for someone to move on that fast? -A confused and sad teen
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): Well, a girl can only take so much before she moves on. You must always remember to treat people how you want to be treated because when carma comes around it comes around twice as hard.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 June 2014):
 How long were you a "jerk" for? Because it can be she was "over" you long before she ended it. Which means her dating someone new already isn't straight out of the gate, so to speak.
People move on in different speeds, and different ways. SOME do it super fast and some looks for a replacement asap. Others take their time before venturing out again.
You know that your behavior made her feel unloved and like you just didn't give a fly's fart. So yes, you were wrong in treating her that way. And if you can learn from that, then good.
Was she wrong in asking you to the prom? Not really, after all you said yes. Was she wrong in LEADING you on a little, making you think that maybe you two could kiss and make up and get back together? A little. I think she took full advantage there and maybe?... got a little dig in too?
Whether they have had sex, or came close is none of your bees wax. How fast, how slow SHE moves on.. none of your beeswax either. She will get over you her way. You will get over her, YOUR way.
Accept that she doesn't want to date you no more. And if I were you I would cut the contact til you feel OVER her.
My suggestion, stop focusing on her. Focus on you.
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