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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a friend who has a personality that is very different from what I am used to. If I go over and sit with her at some event or activity, the majority of the time she does not like it. If she comes over and sits with me, that is supposed to be fine, and it is fine with me. I am more of a people person. I need that one-on-one interaction, and she doesn't seem to be interested in a lot of that. When we do interact, everything is always to the point. If I ask her to borrow something, she brings it right to the door. The only time she says, "Come in" is if there is a reason. For example, if my daughter is there for a birthday party, etc.If I see her at a social get-together or when our volleyball team gets together (our girls play volleyball together), she is always very careful not to interact too much with me or with any one person. What I sense is that she feels that it hinders her in making other friends if she is too cliquish with one certain person. Does anybody know other personalities which are similar to this? When I call her, she seems very pleasant, very willing to do a favor for me and very friendly. How would I know, without coming out and asking her if she still considers me a friend?I have done lots of favors for her and feel that she would do the same for me. But I feel that maybe her idea of a friend and my idea of a friend are not exactly the same. I need someone to call me and say, "Hey, let's go do this." Or, "Are you going to this event? Maybe we could go together." Her idea is more of helping her out if she needed it.Any advice or insight into this matter would be appreciated.Sincerely,Distraught in Denver Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): Well it seems like she is not a very good friend if she considers you a friend. Friends enjoy each others company. If she acts like that all the time (very short) she probably doesn't like you very much. I wouldn't let it bother you. Hope this helped.
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