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writes: heyy guys :) i need fast answers for this one please! so this guy tht i flirt with all the time wants me to wear his football jersey to school 2moro. we both jus flirt, he has a gf tht goes to a different school, we will never be in a real relationship. me and my bf broke up a few weeks ago and im moving on but would take him back. he has been hinting tht he wants us back too. like txting me for no reason, asking me what im doing this weekend, staring at me in the hallways, making a point of walking past me so ill see him etc. if u were my ex, would seeing me in some other guys jersey totally put u off of the idea of getting back together? wld u be rly mad? please help fast! thanks!lovee, Lacey.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 I think we all need to stop beating a dead jersey here.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 November 2009):
 One more thing, the way he speaks to you and the way you seem to tolerate it go to my previous point about victimhood. You like to play helpless and this someday may get you really hurt. Try to remember that, okay? Take care now.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 November 2009):
So I guess you're not pregnant then? Good to know. What a relief, thank goodness, now you're not going to sleep with this guy again, right? Now that you've figured out how to get his attention?
There are far more mature ways of interacting with people, and it is okay to say 'no'. Especially when you are being asked to have sex without a condom. THAT'S when you say 'no' for real.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni told this guy tht i cldnt wear his jersey & he said "it would rly mean a lot to me" so i did. sooo my ex came up to me in the hallway & this is what happened:
Him: who the fxcks jersey is this?
Me: ummmm obviously not yours.
Him: no shxt. whos?
Me: a friend. dont worry about it. its none of your concern anymore.
took me to the side of the hallway and said: youve gotta be kidding me. take it off. right now. dnt be a fxcking slut.
soo i went to walk away and he pulled me back and said: i said take it off! if u ever want me to speak to you again you will take tht off right fxcking now.
Me: hahahahaha you know thats not true.
Him: TAKE IT OFF!
Me: FINE!
and i took it off and he grabbed the back of my neck, walked me to my locker and pushed me away.
Him: Give it back to ur "friend" and call me after practice. we need to fxcking talk.
sooo i gave it back to the guy & he said he understood, he knows my ex doesnt treat me good, but he gets what love feels like. we hugged & said byee. havent talked to my ex yet. oh boyy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): I'm sorry, but I'm just not buying;"not my problem. I have no obligation to her."Besides the fact that your behaviour implies very little Self-respect, you have a choice in life whether to be respectful or hurtful towards Others. Imagine another girl wore Your boyfriend's jersey to school, and continuously flirted with him just as you are with this poor girl's boyfriend. Imagine that this other girl turned around and said of her behaviour;"not my problem. I have no obligation to her."
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 November 2009):
Hi Lacey,
Since you never followed up on your pregnancy scare, I was just wondering if you've found out if you were or not.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/twice-i-had-unprotected-sex-am-i-pregnant.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-a-school-guidance-counsellor-obliged-to-tell.html
And this ex, you keep bringing up how angry he gets about things. So you couldn't tell him you thought you were pregnant, you were too afraid, but now you want him back??? What is up with that? He's either a good guy or he isn't. From what you've written about him, he isn't. So why try to get him back?
And why would you hurt this guy's girlfriend by wearing his jersey? It's going to make you look like a "rhymes with witch" to everyone who's watching. Are you quite sure you want that rep?
So back to this pregnancy scare thing. What was the outcome? Thanks for following up!
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reader, duce00 +, writes (16 November 2009):
Sigh...I am really sorry you didn't understand my answer. Its a real shame because you will have absolutely no chance with men by behaving like you do. You will do just fine with boys though. You have a few more years to do that. I hope for your sake that you take a moment and don't blow off all that has been said to you here. You could have a really great future ahead of you if you tried hard to understand what we have said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionduce00: not really sure why you think i would be angry at that? i don't really understand your answer. thank you though.thanks all!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (16 November 2009):
 Sure go ahead and wear it! Its obvious you want to really do it to make the your ex jealous and upset him. Then your Ex and this guy will get into a big fight and you can laugh and love it because its all for youYou openly admit you like to play mind games...so go for it. watch when they get into a big fight over you. watch when some other girl who like your ex decides to take it upon herself to start some drama with you over it because you have left yourself wide open to it by your immaturity. Then the ensuing girl fight where you get a black eye. That will look good with the Jersey. Or maybe even this guys GF gets wind of it and although you don't go to the same school, she finds you on Myspace or FB and starts crap with you. Or better yet when the guy you like gets regret and tells her where you are(which will happen) and then the next time you go to the mall you can get into a fight there.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (16 November 2009):
OK! Quick help is here!
Come on Lacey...cant you step out of your own shoes and get into his for 2 seconds? That's the key to making respectful choices in a relationship.
Sorry to add insult to injury but you will get far better help from the folks here if how you write is not how you text.
I am advising an overall improvement in character and tact. Just try it despite the twinge of anger you probably got from reading this. You will have a far better future with men I guarantee it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe kind of jus play with eachother ahah. not anything serious, i will admit i may lead him on at times but we have both come to a mutual conclusion tht nothing will happen between us. i would say i probably play with this guys head more than he "has me on the side". its fun to flirt, & i do constantly remind him tht he has a gf but he doesnt stop flirting. which is not my problem. i have no obligation to her. he does. i jus want to know opinions as if u were my ex, wld u still talk to me? he has sort of a bad temper...
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