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Daniel the love doctor
writes:I believe that everyone has a soul mate out there... the person that's meant for them. It's all about finding that person and going through all of the good times and bad times together (because it won't be great all of the time).Now with that being said, there are several ways to help you determine if someone is your soul mate, the right one for you, or the person you'd like to spend the rest of your life with.1. There is a strong connection. The relationship just works. There's meaning, you're physically attuned to him/her, and there is a strong connection from the beginning that logically can not be described.2. Your intuition. If you're a good judge of character and your intuition is telling you that this person is special, different from the rest, and worth settling down with, that's a huge sign that you've found true love. It difficult for many to put to words... you just feel it in your heart that he/she is "the one".3. The feeling is mutual. The relationship is not one sided. Your partner feels exactly the same way as you do...and he/she shows it on a daily or consistent basis. If he/she is genuinely into you and want the same things that you do for your relationship, then the chances are pretty high that you've found true love.So if you feel that you've met your ideal match, then I definitely applaud you for finding that special one. Best wishes to you... and your relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2013): I don't believe in soul-mates. I say that; because as people, we change and we grow. There are people who come into our lives, who are very unlikely partners. Those are the people we meet, and we just may not hit it off from the start; but then suddenly, a chemistry ignites. Spontaneous combustion!You may not always see eye to eye; they may bring a different perspective to the table. They may supplement you in ways you never knew possible. Yet they are totally different and you can't put your finger on what it is that makes it work. They land in your life as a blessing out of nowhere. We can't always compliment each other. There will be differences; but what makes it special is the mutual willingness to forgive, compromise, and to trust without a second thought. The love is unfathomable.I think our souls are meant to be independent, and we only link our lives together with love. So many people come into our lives that seem perfect for us. They may have all the things that we're looking for. We perceive them to have every single quality you could ever dreamed of. Yet something comes along, they don't change. You do.You should always feel humility, and not take for granted that which we receive that is good is truly ours. We should cherish him/her as though they are something precious that was borrowed in good-faith. We use our hearts as collateral.They may come only as a temporary blessing. Placed to restore what we've lost or what we're lacking. To revive something that is dead within us.They may only be meant to touch our lives for the moment; and to be ushered away to someone more deserving. We may be meant to make them better in some way. Reinforcement to their armor.You may not deserve all the things they have to offer. The presumption is always that we are looking for our match. Someone that completes us. What about those who only make us better?We're not perfect. We were created to survive even when alone. We make mistakes that cannot always be fixed. Do we hang on to them, even if we cannot make amends? If we cannot repair the extensive damage we've done? Even if the wounds we've inflicted may not fully heal?So we must look for someone who is already complete; and generous enough to share themselves and still remain whole.A separate energy. Their light still shines bright enough when ours go dim. Yet they inspire us to keep enough on reserve to regain that light lost; because we know they're still there. We never lose sight of them; even in the distance.We all presume that people come into our lives upon invitation. We forget that we are sometimes the guest, not the host. It is their world upon which we are the aliens and welcomed. Faults, imperfections, differences, and all.Connected, yet we are ever so different. We build emotional bridges, form heartfelt connections, and yet maintain an identity. It's important to have an identity and feel free even within a committed relationship. It allows those we love to remain of freewill. To leave if they must. To find love again, should our light be snuffed out completely.We may change and become undeserving. They may have to move on. If you truly love them, they will always shine in your heart; but you will love them so much, that you hope they'll find someone else who can make them happier than they ever made you. Though they cannot stay; they taught you not to be selfish. Your redemption is found in setting them free. They're not taking anything away; they left you whole as they found you. They go on to make someone else better, and to become better.You live on to find another. No two loves are ever the same.No two loves should be compared. They may not be the perfect match, or it may not last forever; but cherished all the same. You're still different, but you're better than you were before.
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