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36-40,
anonymous
writes: I'm really jealous of my ex best friend. She's prettier than me, more successful than me in all areas of life (eg: academically) she's popular and has more friends than me, has a really hot boyfriend in her life (the guy I had a secret crush on for years!). We were best friends in middle school than when we got to junior high, she started hanging out with the popular girls. She started acting like a total b***h to me! I feel like life is unfair! I feel like she has everything and I have nothing and its not fair because she has been so horrible! How can I stop feeling jealous of her? I don't want to think about her anymore. I want to stop constantly comparing myself to her. PLEASE HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your responses everyone. your words of encouragement mean alot to me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): Oh no! She's already your EX best friend, so why do you keep thinking about her? I am sorry to hear that she was terrible to you in school, but why is she behaving like that? Unless you did something horrible to her so that is why she is retaliating? However, if your conscience is clear, then I would say MOVE ON!
I totally understand your feelings of inferiority! Sometimes it just feel like life just isn't fair, but maybe you can learn from her. She was mean to you? Learn from it! tell yourself to remain a GOOD and KIND person, no matter what clique you hang out with! It's sad that she changed her character once she hung out with the popular crowd!
Also, try to find something you are good in and excel at it. I am SURE you're talented in something! Always remember to live your life for yourself! I can only say the best revenge is to live well! Good luck girlie! =)
PS: There are always people who are going to be prettier than you. Sadly I am also learning to accept that! T.T Oh, and academics are important, but they are not everything! ;)
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reader, angel91 +, writes (2 May 2009):
you are a beautiful individual woman. there is no1 else like you on this earth, because no two ppl are alike. Please don't put yourself down because of this girl. If she treats you like that, she's not worth your time.
Hang out with the ppl that mean most to you, and be confident. Confidence in yourself will get rid of any of your jealous thoughts.
Keep your head up :)
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