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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I am a 22 year old guy, have never been on a date, and am very shy around girls. I have only been "close" to a few girls in my life, but never anything serious. Anyways, when I do get closer with them, I try to do little nice things for them. They say that I am sweet, but nothing happens. I end up feeling burned. I am sick of being nice and going nowhere. Is there anyway to cure "hopeless romanticism?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): If you ask girls what they want in a guy, they'll tell you what they think they should want. But that's not always what they really go for.
Just do what actually works for other guys.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (11 September 2008):
 thatonekid is right. We are biology attracted to strong males who are confident, outgoing, funny.
We feel protected and secure.
We love nice guys too but as a boyfriend, if you smother us, we can't breath and need our space.
Also, it seems like nice guys are always wanting our approval. It shouldn't be like that. You should know who you are as a Man, and this confidence will carry through.
Don't be a Jerk. just work on your shyness and don't be a doormat. Be somewhere in between and the girls will come running.
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reader, ThatOneKid +, writes (11 September 2008):
First of all, there isn't anything wrong with being a hopeless romantic. I feel that I am the same way when I fall for a girl. But, at the same time, you have to let the girl know that you are a "man". Girls don't want a guy that will say nice things, but wouldn't stand up for her in a fight. It's the alpha male instinct. Women will always be friends with the nice guy, and lust over the alpha male, no matter how much of a dick he is... Just find a happy even..
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