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writes:Please help me...I really need advice on how to re-connect with this guy I met. All advice is accepted and appreciated!Ok here goes, I met this guy on a social networking site. He gave me his messenger screename and I we had two conversations. It seemed to me like we were hitting it off because both of us were dropping hints left and right about possibly meeting up (We live in the same state.) Well, soon after, we talked less because he's a really busy guy and a week went by without him being online. When he did sign on, it looked like we were picking up where we left off. I even told him how I'd be in his area because I would be visiting some friends. He just said "ok" and that's it! I didn't know what else to say because I didn't expect that answer. I was expecting something more along the lines of "Great! Let's meet up!" But no, that was that so I left that alone. Then, he asked me for a picture...he had already seen pics of me but I guess he wanted to know what I looked like at that moment. I didn't feel too great about it especially after I just cleaned the whole house and did laundry that day! Well either way I sent it... he never said anything about it. But I know he got it because he said he did. I just feel, he's losing interest in me and I wanna know how I can get that interest back...I really think there could be something there if I was given another try... Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (9 May 2009):
 I think trying to start a relationship on the basis of a computer liason is a bad idea. There are so many signals that one gets from people in real life about what kind of person they are, not to mention the pherenomes important in sexual attraction. It is impossible to judge someone from an encounter on the net, and all too easy for the unscrupulous to play someone looking for comfort. Unless you live in a vast area of nothingness, as some people do, I would regard the internet as a dicey way to form a relationship.If you are determined to make the mistake, then ask straight out if he would like to meet for a coffee somewhere public - just a coffee and a chat. Take it slow. Tell a friend where you are going and what you are going to do. Have them call you on your mobile half way through. There are too many nutters out there and many of them look like ordinary persons.
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