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writes:want to move onafter a10 years relationship he dumped me so badly. He just want to stay friends with me. 2 years i tried not to love him and acting like a hell. Its a vary hard time for me being with him as a friend and nothing els.please somebody help me. I don't want him as just friend..? I need a time...but he cant understand and contact me again and again. I done even want to hurt him coz i still love him and do care for his work.
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reader, ace_16  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 it's really hard moving on,but i think it's the right thing for you to do now...
We can't force someone to love us...,and you must accept that fact... respect what your ex bf feels and his decision...
let's always remember that sometimes,we just have to stop pushing ourselves to loved or be loved by someone.Sometimes we just have to be alone to be able to think about what we really want in life,. sometimes it is only when we start loving ourselves that we are able to realize that real and lasting happiness starts from us...
save yourself and stop living on the past...it's just a matter of acceptance i know you can do it...just
focus your attention on something...keep yourself busy...
Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): 10 yrs is n't a short time to understand a person ,i assume that u've understood eachother but must've felt bored or saturated ,have a positive discussion being very transparent,sort out by u'rself with an open mind with practicality, i'm sure there's some apparent issue that's leading to this break up thought 1st solve that issue & u'll see some difference,avoid any third person's involvement plz
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reader, canttoleratebs  +, writes (7 July 2010):
Make everything about you, do what you want to do, it's time to learn how to dance in the rain and believe that the sun will shine. You said he broke up with you badly, which means that you are very hurt by this. So, look at it like this now he wants to be friends, would you choose someone as a friend if you knew you would be hurt by them?? Well, he has already done the damage and he doesnt qualify as a friend therefore, he is a waste of time and, this is no longer about what he wants, he doesnt have a say in the matter. If you truly want to move on its time to cut all ties and delete his ass completely.
Good Luck, the best is yet to come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Look, move on means to move on. I was in such a situation before and it took me over five years to overcome it, and when i did i found that my career was sucks, all my friends gone and I looked ten years older. Then I told myself I have to help myself, I gave him all that I can and that was not enough. First of all, love yourself and know that you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. It is ok to love him as long as this love does not show. by time this love will go. write a list of things that makes you happy and do them once you miss him. start learning something new like dancing, put a schedule of calling a good friend daily and going out twice per week do that by forcing yourself, mingling with others will make you open up. Watch all the romantic comedies that you can in which the guy does everything to winover his love, and this is a subconscious treatment as you will come to know by the end of every movie that love must conquer all, and in your case no effort was exerted by the guy. After watching like twenty ones of so your love will decrease. Read self help books like he is not just into you. But the most important thing of all is to mingle with people and do a lot of activities because staying alone would have its toll on your mind and make you miss him more, in fact you are not missing him but you miss the time you spent with him. Try to have newer and better quality memories. If you do so and you are still in contact he may find a new person in you that he might like to know. But take my word for it, when a man let's a woman go he does not deserve her love. And also i forget to tell you have a complete make over, nothing makes a woman happier than a beautiful look, and be sure to keep your heart warm with good feelings and sympathy to others as this gives every woman a special glow that would make others fall for her. Believe me if you do so and exert enough effort you would be completely different and if it happens that he comes back I am sure you will never want him.
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