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writes: How to make Valentine’s day special and without breaking the BankYes, flowers, chocolates and jewellery but there are many ways to show your love without sinking into debt. The following is about creative ways to demonstrate you care without maxing out your credit card. And of course suggestions to brighten up your love life with your loved one do not need to be confined to Valentine’s DayMy favourite suggestion, for someone you know really well and see or interact with often is a book of promises, all with a Use by date. Be specific. You can use all or some of the suggestions. Some may inspire you to think up a few of your own. To do this you can either do it using strong card or you can make up an electronic version using power point and send it electronically to your loved one. Here is an example:I (your name) promise to provide a foot massage for ten minutes to (their name) when asked by (their name). You can add a picture of a foot or draw a foot on the promise certificate. Add a time limit: promise must be used by (add a date that is less than 12 months away)And I promise to provide you with breakfast in bed on a Sunday morning when given at least 24 hours notice to provide the Sunday breakfast. Once again a time limit will apply. Promise must be used by (add a date that is less than 12 months away)Another is a lucky choice bag. You may also like to have a discussion with your loved one on the types of kisses your loved one prefers. Add in the ones that mean something to you or bring you joy too. But only add kisses you are comfortable giving or receiving and vice a versa. You could list all your preferences on one colour of paper and the preferences of your loved one on a different colour paper. When you pay this game you only get to choose ONE type of kiss from the choice bag per every 24 hours. And you do not know if the kiss will be for you or for your loved one. So let’s assume the colour choice of your loved one is orange and your colour choice is mauve. So if a mauve card is pulled out then that is one of your favourites and your loved one has the red light to give you that kiss. And if orange is pulled out then that is your opportunity to give that kiss or those kisses to your loved one. Refusal is an option, but you miss a turn if you pull out the card to kiss your loved one’s big toe and you choose to say no.For this one you need a theme and each promise fits into that theme. Choose six credit card size pieces of thick card and write on the card the sort of kiss you are willing to offer. First one could be butterfly kisses made by fluttering your eye lashes close to, perhaps his cheek or his forehead.Another could be a sweet kiss on the forehead of your loved oneAnother could be a very long duration tongue kiss if you are both happy about the inclusion of this one type of kiss You may even like to cut the cards into the shape of lips thought that will be more time consuming. A draw string cloth bag is great for holding the kiss choices. You can each initial the kiss card and put the date next to the initials and return the card to the bag or you can discard the card if one or both of you does not want to have a repeat of that kiss. My guess is that you will want to return the card to the mix for a round two. . . or three !Another suggestion is a series of memories and appreciation envelopes where you recall something you especially love about your loved one or an experience or outing you really enjoyed with your loved ones favorite. Write a brief note about each experience and add that note to an envelope. Before sealing each envelope also add in a single piece of wrapped candy or cookie or chocolate. Thus instead of giving a whole box you choose one, wrap it in colored paper in a bonbon shape. Then place it in an envelope into which you also add a small note about something you love or appreciate about your loved one or a memory of a special shared time with your loved one.Why you love your partner. Buy a small blank book from a stationery shop no bigger than something that could fit into a pocket and start writing out the things that your partner does or has done that cause you to love your partner. This is all about positive things. Focus solely on the positive with no snide insinuations. Thus it is no good saying, “I love that you were on time last week when we met for lunch as you are usually late for everything”Instead focus on the consistently delightful positive things, such as, “I love how well you clean up the kitchen when you cook” or “I love how you make scrambled eggs, they are best scrambled eggs I have ever tasted” Find a poem on line that expresses your love for your partner and place it on their pillow for them to read at bedtime or you can read out the poem to them.A meal and dancing datePlan a nice meal that the two of you plan, shop for and cook together, just the two of you and then after dessert put on some music from a CD you have compiled, packed with slow dance music that you use for dancing together. If there is a song or some romantic music that means a lot to the two of you include that too.Where it all began. If you met in an easy to get to place and did most of your dating in that place then this suggestion may work. Go on a walking date in the place where you met and visit that place then the place where you had your first meal together. Or a street that means a lot to you or a place where you went to for an especially significant memorable date. Talk about the things you can recall about the dates and what you most enjoyed.Lunch packed for workStart fixing lunch for your partner to take to work and include a loved note in every box that says something nice about them. Include a heart shaped cookie that you baked. Or cut the sandwich into a heart shape (yes there will be some wastage so may need 2 sandwiches instead of one)A beach party in February.If your partner loves the beach but the weather is nothing like summer then create a meal and set the table as if at a resort with umbrellas on the drinks and a meal you may have in summer. Wear your bathers and hang beach towels over the back of the chairs. Some relevant music that is beach themed will add to the atmosphere. If a beach theme does not resonate you can also choose a theme from another era such as a great Gatsby dinner with suitable background music. You could also put on an old movie from the early days and watch it together. Message on a mirrorWrite “I love you” in lipstick on a mirror.Choose the hall mirror that he will see when he walks by it. Or choose the bathroom mirror so that is the first thing he sees when he goes to the bathroom.The soap in the bathroomCarve “I love you” on the soap he uses in the shower. Go to the movies at homePick a newly released film that is romantic and go to the movies at home. Snuggle up together under the same rug.Make up a platter of finger food where each item can be picked up with a toothpick. Examples would be bite size mini pizza, one meat ball per toothpick with a dipping sauce nearby.Strawberries on a toothpick with a salted caramel or a chocolate dipping sauce nearby is niceShare an ice cube together while you kiss, passing it back and forth to each other until it has fully melted under the warmth of your tongue and your lips. A bowl of peeled seedless grapes that you feed your partner one by one is really nice. Have a happy St Valentine’s Day, this year and next year and beyond.
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