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writes:I know a man who fancy me sexually but doesn't like me personally.This is odd I know, please open your mind.This is a player, someone who sleeps around and goes from a girl to a girl like a bee in the spring lol.He is good looking, charming and clever too, most important to me is the last one, he is indeed very clever and good at his game.I'm good looking, I don't sleep around and I'm pissed off (angry) because I like him regardless even though I know what he is exactly.Most annoying, this man and I are in a same social scene, and he act like he doesn't like me, not interested in me, ignores me and for months on end treat me like he doesn't see me YET, there is a secret between us.Months ago, in an odd situation, we kissed, out of no where, it just happened, we kissed and I stopped him, we never spoke about it after and I ignored it because this kiss was enough for me to feel him, all he want is to sleep with me, that's it, like the endless girls he sleep with when he fancy, he got his ways I tell you that.This guy have a lot of experience, been there, done that and I don't think he knows how to love anyone.Now, I want him to fall in love with me, I want to play him, some how, turn the table on him and slowly pull the carpet from underneath his feet.I'm afraid I'm not only his match, it takes 2 to play a good game ande have had all my attention.So, how to make someone who doesn't like you fall in love with you ?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (23 June 2017):
 Also, "I want him to fall in love with me, I want to play him, some how, turn the table on him and slowly pull the carpet from underneath his feet" is cruel, even if he's done it to someone else, which you don't know he has - he may have been upfront with everyone and some may have fallen for him anyway.
OP, act your age and find a single guy who likes you back. Don't deliberately play games with people or karma will bite you.
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reader, Phil052 +, writes (23 June 2017):
 He's not going to fall in love with you. He likes his life as it is, chasing women for no strings sex! If you want to have sex with him then accept it for what it is, but don't get your hopes up for a meaningful relationship as that's not his game. If you want a full relationship, look elsewhere!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (23 June 2017):
You're a bit old to think you can "make" someone do/feel something.
He wants sex. That's it. If you try to get more out of it, you will get hurt.
Ignore him and cut contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2017): Not a genuine question.
Stop wasting people who want to help, time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2017): This is why so many guys act like him. The bottom line is that it's working. He is already close to getting what he wants from you. You are miles away from getting what you want from him.
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reader, N91 +, writes (23 June 2017):
 Why would you even try this?
You know all he wants is sex, therefore there is NOTHING that you can do to change that. A guy knows who he wants a relationship with and who he wants to sleep with, you're playing a dangerous game here.
If you give it up you'll be the one picking up the pieces,not him. There's nothing you can do to break his trend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2017): I don't know if you can make him fall in love with you but you can certainly play his game and ignore him back as though he's a nobody!
Might annoy him that really as your not just falling at his feet like the others.
But to be honest just find someone else, this guy must think he's all that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2017): Sweetheart, you are never going to win this game.
You cannot change a player. But the bigger question is why would you even want a man like that?
You can divert their attention away from other girls for the time being. Until it's time for him to be on the prowl again.
These guys don't change.
You cannot love a broken man enough for him to love himself. And in turn, love you the way you deserve to be loved. Men like this are insecure and need multitudes of women reassuring them at all times. You will never be enough for his ego. He will continue to need more and more reassurance and adoration from other women.
If you think you are the one to win his heart, just realize it is your own heart you will be breaking in the process.
These guys are not worth it. They will use you and move on to the next one. The elite will make you think they love you and that they will never look at another woman for as long as they live. You will never beat him at his own game. What these con artists have in their corner is not feeling emotions. Being cold hearted and emotionless makes it easier to use people. Mainly women, who are ruled by their emotions. :(
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 June 2017):
 You can't.
It's really THAT simple. For one, he ISN'T looking for love, he is looking for females to play mind games with (including you). And since you didn't "play" the game on his terms he is no longer interested in playing any other game than "ignore" with you.
The best thing you can do? IGNORE him back, live your life and look for fun and companionship elsewhere.
He ISN'T worth it.
And honestly? Aren't you a little too OLD to be playing "games"?
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (22 June 2017):
I just need to ask WHY you want to do this? To teach a player a lesson? Or to get attention/validation from him? Or because you are crushing on him and hope that this will lead to a relationship?
It might make a difference to people's answers.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (22 June 2017):
 this guy is a player , he acting like he does not even see you is an old trick that some fools play it works like this if I take a girl out on a date and walk her home when we get near the door she is thinking that he will try to kiss me goodnight at the door , and she starts to build her self up to fight him off in the not the first date I am a good girl , but players like this think ok so if I walk her to the door and just say goodnight without trying to kiss her she will start thinking what is wrong with me that he did not want to kiss me so the next night she is looking for it more and the player holds off again and the 2 play this game and end up in bed and she asks how did i get here , it is the where you are today , best thing to do is walk away or even better run , he is what girls call a bad boy , but if you play with bad boys then don't be asking why does me fellow work late at night , because he is out being a bad boy when you are at home with dinner ready for him , this game you wish to play is like the young guy that gets dumped but wants to win her back so that he can dump her , you are between 26 and 29 best to act your age and not like a 9 year old
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reader, Denizen +, writes (22 June 2017):
 Sorry sweetheart but I think you are a sandwich short of a picnic. If it is just sex you want then I imagine it isn't too hard to pick someone up. If you want to play games with this man then what is the point? Do you want him to fall for you? Then what?
If you are looking for love and not just sex then going about it this way is a recipe for disaster.
I'm sorry to tell you this but you sound immature. Are you sure you are 26-29? Your English is a bit wobbly too. If this sounds critical it is because you don't come across as being genuine to me.
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