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writes:I was just hoping someone who may have been in a similar situation could give me some advice. Im dating a guy for 2 months now and I am crazy about him. We always have a good time. Im not sure where we stand right now- havent had any discussions about being exclusive but we are having sex. Along comes my ex who I have always loved and always will love. We have never really tried having a relationship because we have been friends our whole lives and just hooked up here and there for years. He now wants me to be his girlfriend and eventually his wife. He keeps talking about our future together and how Im the only woman he loves. He tried to have sex with me at a party and I said no because I am seeing someone else and have to figure out what I am doing. I am not the type of girl to sleep with both of them so now I feel like I have to make a decision. The ex wants to go out saturday and asked if he could sleep over. But the guy Im dating just slept over the other night. What do I do??? I would just follow my heart but I have feelings for both of them. The ex knows about the new guy but the new guy doesnt know about the ex calling me everyday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Thanks cute babe! Sorry, I realized after I posted its confusing..we have been friends a long time but we have slept together and were seeing each other here and there but never had an exclusive relationship. Mind you this has gone on for 6 or 7 years of being on and off. I think you make a great point about how we havent worked out for a reason, and that reason being that he could never commit. I cant help but think why the sudden change that now he wants a comittment? The new guy is wonderful but Im not sure where its going or if he wants to pursue an exclusive relationship. I think I am going to continue with the new guy and see where it goes and if my friend and I are meant to be then I will end up with him somehow eventually down the road. Its just too much for me to entertain right now, I only have the energy to focus on one person. Gosh just when you move on they always have to come back dont they?! LOL Thank you so much for your advice and thoughts!!
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reader, CuteBabe +, writes (23 September 2010):
 You mentioned that he's you EX and in your question you said he was a FRIEND??!!! I think you should be more specific to what he really is.. Because if he was just an old friend and you have old feelings for him and nothing went wrong with him in the past it's worth it..
BUT if he was your EX than he's an ex for a reason and never forget the reason that made him an ex!! Because that reason will never disappear or change it will always be there to haunt you:s.
PLUS there is this new guy you don't want to hurt him one day saying "sorry dear but an old friend of mine just showed up and I've always had feelings for him, I think we need our space now" it's really HARSH!
FINALLY your in a relationship with a wonderful guy as you said why lose him just because another guy showed up:s
you could tell him what's going on tell him the truth that your ex is back calling you and wanting to see you and stuff be honest and see what he has to tell you..
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