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How to juggle the needs of my father and my desire to study and create a better future for me. Any ideas on how, please?

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Question - (27 April 2015) 1 Answers - (Newest, 27 April 2015)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My situation is unique. When I was 17 my father who is my single parent became very sick and now is considered disabled and barely makes any money anymore so when I finished high school I got a job instead of heading off to college so I could help with our bills. We were in a very tough spot and still are.

I just turned 20 and for the past 3 years I've been very frustrated with my life, it did not turn out like I had planned. All I've done is worked long hours, just making enough to pay our bills and help with payments for his medical needs.

Only just 2 months ago did I have enough to purchase a cheap used car. Yes it took me almost 3 years to save for a cheap car because I can only put very little money into savings.

We don't live comfortably. I don't make enough income to live alone, neither does my father, so we're continuing living together so it's easier on him and I can help take care of him as well.

My dad has been a great father and no it's not his fault, but I feel like there's not much of a future for me.

He tells me he feels bad that I have to do so much. If I were to quit work for any reason, we would basically be screwed.

My friends all have parents who can support them fully financially while they attend school and I have to say it upsets me.

I love my dad, but I want to get on with my life, you know?

I feel like my life is going nowhere at the moment. I wanted to get my degree in teaching.

I can't afford to lessen my work hours to be able to attend school. I feel like I have no life because of such a lack of money.

I'm not happy with my life, neither is my father, it's a pretty sad situation.

What is recommended that I do? What are my options at this point?

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A male reader, Xearo Trinidad and Tobago +, writes (27 April 2015):

Honestly speaking you dont need to have a college education to have a decent career. Right now many firms are looking for people who want to pursue sales but they can not afford a full time sales person. All you would ever need to do is invest is a sales speaking course and establish your surroundings to work from home. You can look into cloud based CRM applications and see what comes up on your radar. Sales has the potential for you to make a lot of money. And since you wanted to do teaching, sales should be a similar path to you.

Another career path where you can work from home is IT based. You can learn to code some language from your home and then look for contracting jobs online.

On a more radical approach, if you can spare one hour a day to workout, you might be able to become buff in a couple of months. Having a side project like this can give you the motivation you need in your life. Who knows, maybe you can meet a nice girl who makes money and you can basically be a stay at home partner.

I think life is harder when you compare yourself to others so try not to do this. There are solutions to everything, you just need to do your research and motivate yourself.

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