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writes: Well my best friend is going through rough times in her life. I promised her that I'll always be there for her. Well her dad is getting a divorce and her family is falling apart. Her sister is having a baby and the time her sister has the baby, she is going to Michigan to follow her dream to be an actress. She is moving all by herself to Michigan away from her family. While she is in Michigan her sister will have the baby and my bestfriend's cousin is trying to take her spot as the auntie. My best friend is scared the baby wont know who she is. But, my best friend is going through hard times and she calls me for help. She called me at 3am this morning. I have no idea what I should do to help her. I need help to help her. What can I do to help her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice:)!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 I too come from a broken home, parents got divorced at 22..point out that everyone's parents are divorced these days the divorce rate is 60% and rising..She's not alone. Divorces suck so at least she won't be around to witness the worst part of it..when she comes back hopefully things will be settled and she'll have to divide up time evenly between both households. It's going to be weird at first she'll never really accept it because she doesn't know it any other way but she's an adult so I'm confident that she will make the best of the situation. Once the baby gets older, then she will understand that your best friend is her aunt, so she has a ways to go on that. Plus, moving away on your own can be very scary...she's very brave for doing so and I know how hard it is to move to a new area and not know anyone, but that can be easily fixed if she's going to school or even through her job. Just listen when your friend calls, offer her your thoughts or what I said in your own words..You're mainly going to be doing a lot of listening and positive reinforcement. Send her a care package to brighten her spirits, maybe a CD of a new band she's into, or you can get personal and make her a mixed CD of oldies and new tracks of your guys favorite songs, some pictures of her new niece or even a videotape of the birth so she can feel like she was there, a box of her favorite candy, her favorite movie if she doesn't own it already, a framed picture of you and her, a tube of awesome lipgloss from Sephora if she's a lipgloss fiend, or a cute makeup case if you noticed hers was a little old and dirty, those are some options, you know your best friend so you can come up with some good ideas. Also since she'll probably be feeling down, I would ask her when would be a good time for you to come up and visit her..go out, make her show you around Michigan, go out for drinks if you're of age, go to a concert, and out to dinner to get her mind off things. Hope my suggestions help.
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