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*ittlegeebee
writes:My bf and i were together over 3 years and we have a 2 year old son, my bf is an addict and he has wanted help but decided to wait bc of pending legal issues, he has anxiety and also just lost his dad so now depression. recently he has drifted away from me we had been arguing a lot lately but we were still inseperable up till his father was told he had a short time to live, he was seen with another girl (the homewrecker has been a problem for awhile) and eventually after the funneral he told me he sees nothing good coming from this and got upset and said to "leave me alone from now on" in a text no less. a friend saw him and told me he hasnt been with anyone else just really upset and grieving, its been 3 weeks since he has seen me and our son and 2 weeks since we talked. then today i finally i got a response and he said all he ever wanted was to be civil and not to kick him while he is down again, so how do i handle this and try to help get us back together and on track again?
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reader, licallion  +, writes (3 June 2012):
Hi, I'm lisa-Marie a 20 year old with a three year old son. i've been through something the same as you a boyfriend 9and baby daddy) who was a previous addict and also suffers with depression. Depression is a horendous disease and very difficult to understand unless you've been through it.There's great reading on mind-your-head and headsawayjustsay.com (for a few to look at). Depression, in short is when you have negative feelings of yourself, the world around you and the future.When depressed the person will have so many negative thoughts in their mind that they don't mean to become selfish but it's difficult to focus on anything when your head is a mess.The only reason i know about depression is i studied psychology at a level and studying a hnd in health and social care. More importantly, I've been there. Only then did i really understand what my 'selfish' boyfriend was going through. Or what i thought was him being 'selfish.'He broke up with me over a txt when i had eight weeks to go of my pregnancy. No reason just did it, it led to my own depression. but we are back now and fine. The reason he did it as it turns out is that he believed he was no good for me and our baby.It was 6 months he left with no contact.i did a self-confidence class and this helped me with my issues of Post-Natal Depression and helped me understand his.i think the key is for you to do some research on depression. Let me know if this helps, feel free to ask anything elseLisa
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