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writes:Is it possible to get over someone that is so...perfect for you, yet everything is so against you, there's not a chance of being together?The person I am talking about is my best friend. I was definitely interested in him before we became close as friends but opted to forget about this as his friendship became far more valuable to me.But he has since been in two relationships that haven't worked out, he has hinted that the reason would be his feelings towards me which I've been told by him, and many of our mutual friends, reciprocate my own for him.However, I feel I cannot wait for him any longer. In a few months time he is moving to another country which will be a nightmare and too much distance for us to handle. Plus I am now in a relationship where my partner makes me so happy and we get on so well so I naturally don't want to screw it up.I know it may seem unfair to my bf that I have feelings for my best friend while I am with him, but like I said, I'm not waiting around and my bf fully understands the situation and still wants to try with me, as I fully do with him.But I need help, how do you get over someone you have majorly fallen for, yet cannot be distanced from? I refuse to sacrifice our friendship because of this as he is one the few people I can open up to and trust with my life. Is it possible to get over those kinds of feelings?
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reader, BadAsh6705  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 I think you shouldn't worry about saying anything to him about it. Let him go and keep in touch, but it would be better to try things with your boyfriend now and if the other guy is such a good friend you guys will probably keep in touch for awhile and maybe there will be a chance later to try things out under better circumstances. Even if you were to confess your love to him before he leaves, he will be a long way away and that would not be the best time to start out on a relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Well I would say Leave it alone, why force something that hasn't happen to distruction? In love you have to let things go its way, I can't believe your boyfriend right now is standing strong next to you. I would say good luck in another country, keep in touch and I hope you find yourself and that special someone.You can't be a friend and let him grow up, you have your own life, your own bf why reck what you have to have something you haven't done anything about but your will to break someone else heart for a return of a heart that has been yours for the longest, Let it be destiny...If he comes back its your, if he doesn't its not ment to be.Dont force it just embrace it with all the support and love he will need on his journey because he isn't gonna drop everything because its to late. What if he is was suppose to leave an blamn's you for making him your BEST FRIEND stay? What if can go on forever you just got to know what you want and get it from the start not wait till its FUCKS UP YOURS AND HIS AND YOUR BOYFRIENDS LIFE..OVER SELFISH REASONS
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reader, Cupid070707 +, writes (22 November 2007):
I realise your problem- although there is a strong chance of you two being together, love is tricky business, as i know, my mothers love story is very similar-she was married but things were not going so well and he was sleeping on the couch, one night she met his friend, and he was engaged although they fell in love which as you could guess you cannot argue with your feelings. They decided to give it a go and they have been together forever since.
so it is possible in the most frightfull of circumstances.
just Talk to your love and open up, if you do not want to risk leaving your bf for him then just explain. The aim is to talk.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship!
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reader, hello1 +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Those feelings are hard to overcome but distance and time will help.
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reader, muffy +, writes (22 November 2007):
 well if you can open up to him and u trust him with your life then you just answered your own question.who cares if its far away.i had a long distant relationship and it worked out for a long itme but we r through now.if you guys r best friends and want to move it on up then do it.date him until he moves and if you like it then stay 2gether but if you dont then at least you gave him a chance.sure your boyfriend is your boyfriend but he hasnt always been therr like your best friend has.best friends are way better then relationships.they are less complicated even thought they take some work.but if you decide to stay together even when he moves then just make sure you guys stay in contact.try your hardest to see him as much as possible like i did for my long distant relationship and call each other everyday.
i hope i helped
love and kisses
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