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writes:I am 19, and I can't get over my feelings for my friend who is a girl. It is killing me. We were close friends but lately she has become distant from me. I wrote her a letter but I haven't given it to her yet. About our relationship. I think I am in love with the idea of being in love with her. I've been like this for 2 and a half years. I've tried everything. Stay busy, and hang with other friends but ugh nothing. The only thing that helps is not talking to her even though when I do I miss her. I do not want to end our friendship but if I don't my feelings for her will never go away, right? I've tried talking to her about it and she tell me she is straight and that if we are together it would ruin us but. It just won't sink in my head. Help me. It is driving me crazy. Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 If she has already told you how she feels then i am sorry but there is nothing you can do to change her mind, she knows her own feelings.
The best thing i can tell you is that time is a healer and moviong on has no time limit, the best way is trying not to think about her, meet and talk to new people, go places with them, you never know when you may meet someone you like who does like you back. I know this isnt a quick fix but when it comes to matters of the heart there is never a quick fix.
If you want to maintain a friendship then you need to put your feelings to the side as if your are to full on you may make her feel uncomfortable.
I hope this helps.
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