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writes:My husband and I have been married for almost 14 years, and 3 weeks ago he told me that he loved me but was not in love with me which I don't understand thatbecause he's been the love of my life ever since he proposed. The marriage hasn't been perfect on either of our parts. After that I found out that he was having an affair with a 20 year old, he is 35. I told him that I forgive him and I want to try to work things out and he said he would try. We have two children ages 12 and 6. Thing is I don't think he really trying. I need some suggestions on how or what to do to get him to see just how much I really love him and want him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Walk away,there are two possible outcomes to this: 1. He thinks great now I'm free or 2. He realises what has lost and fights for you to come back. Either way you win although it won't feel like it if the first happens, at least you will not be in a loveless relationship and will be able to build a new life for yourself. There is no easy way of sorting something like this nut I do honestly believe this is the most effective. Be strong and remember that things do happen for a reason and that you are not to blame for someone elses shortfalls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): We both have done some damage insults and what not. I have never with held sex and I thought our sex life was great. I have apologized to him for the way I have treated him in the past. I want to stay with him, I love him with all my heart and soul and I can't imagine being with anyone else. Any suggestions on how to fix the communication problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Oh, what a mess! He said he isnt in love with you and he has had an affair, sorry, but what are you waiting for? You are still young with a young family, you can start again. I wouldnt be still there with him. And i certainly wouldnt be asking what i should do to get him back. He would be picking his bones out of the gutter.
Take care
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