How to get her back after you've said really awful hurtful things?

A male age 41-50, *quaman7827 writes:

Me and my girlfreind broke up about a week ago. The problem was that she started to help a male friend with his business and he was willing to help her get into better shape. The problem started when every time we would go out she would always mention his name. It got to a point that i asked her if she liked him, but she said no, but then one friday she was taking an exercise class that he teaches, before the start of the class she insisted that i contact my friend because if she is feeling tired i can hangout with them. I told no worries that if she is tired i will drop her off and then go hangout with them. Now the class ended at 7:45pm and she left me waiting for her till 8:45pm. She did not come down till i called her to see what was taking so long. When she did come out she gets into my car and tells me that she is wearing a thong, and that she is going to start wearing more of them. Now this is coming from a person who never liked thongs because she dosent like something up her butt. When i asked her why she took so long she said she was talking to some of the girls in the class. Then on sunday after the friday she said that she needed a couple of days to herself, so i said ok, but i felt something wasnt right. Then on wednesday we went out to eat, and throughout the night you could tell her mind was elsewhere and constantly looking at her blackberry. Then the next friday she told me that she was going to the exercise class again, but that she was going straight home, that she wanted to be alone, and again something did not feel right, so after texting her a couple of time she wasnt responding, so i decided to go over to her house, as i arrived i notice her lights were off, and so i started texting her more and finally she texted me back, i decided to park my car next a couple of cars down, but enough that i can see her door. As im texting her i am asking her "i am sure you are really tired and that she is doing the same i am doing which was laying down in bed", she responds back saying yes i am in bed, so i asked "are really tired she said yes i am really tire" , i text her "why didnt she the lotto", she tell me that when she got off the bus she was to tired to play it, so around 11pm guess who i see getting ready to enter her house, dressed up very nice and in snakeskin shoes. It was her. Then she stops texting me and calls me, with the tv blasting she says to me why am i texting and not calling, so i asked her if she would ever lie to me, she said no, i said are you sure, she said she is sure, so i asked her where was she at that she just got back home looking all nice at 11pm. She said how do i know this and i told her i was parked outside, she said so now i am tailing her, now at one point in the relationship she went through my cell text messages to see if i was cheating on her which i wasnt, but i felt she was looking out for best interest, so i told her that by parking here i was looking out for my best interest and that i was not tailing her. I had a bad feeling and went along with it. To make a long story short, i said some real awful things to her, and i mean awful things to her. The truth is that she was my world we did everything with each other and i miss dearly, and even though i have said sorry, and emailed her recently she still has not called me or responded to my email. I want to try and work things out but i think the things i said to her really hurt her. I do care for her and love, but i just want to win her back. What should i do? Please help.

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