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writes:I have couple of posts related to this problem and heres upto date info :) Please help meee!!I met this guy in late Sept 2010, we were getting along so great for a month. After a month of dating him, I knew that I really like him and i'm ready to be with him...(u no what i mean) but then after that night, he didn't contact me for about a month..Then we kind of got back on the track since Dec..not as often as like before but at least once a week or so. but we both are extremely busy with works and stuffs at da mo so...anyways We get along well but I do not know where I am standing..so I asked him what happend..He said he's very sorry, didnt mean to do that and didnt want to make me feel shit about gettin with him and everything...was all nice about it..but also told me how he is not ready for a serious stuffs or any relationship at the moment...I also have this personal problem as well because I'm moving to the another country for three months next year in march and his ex and he broke up because she moved to the very same country that i'm about to move in next Mar.and here's my question...what should I do? I already like him a lot more than I should have and I want him to change his mind at some point to be very honest...but I doubt it...and how could I change it? ..ahh its tough.. I dont know...do you guys think its ok to see him from time to time anyways as im moving away soon so might just have good company? or will I fall too hard for him? (well I already am in a way...) ...how should you change one's mind about that? ...well it's very messy here..thanks for reading..i'd appreciate your opinion. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the answers.. I appreciate em all. x
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 You can't go trying to change his mind when he already told you no relationships. He's not saying it for the heck of it, he really means it! Not everyone can handle a LDR, you guys can't even handle steady dating in the same country!
Sorry sweetie, he's just not in your cards. You could visit him from time to time, but it won't amount to anything. Because you live in another country, he's busy with work, and he doesn't want anything serious. Hate to say it, but you're his ex girlfriend all over again. Just end it on a good note, and keep your options open when moving to this new country. That means a clean slate and a whole new lot of eligible bachelors.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Once again, I agree with Aunt Honesty. Sadly, part of the dating process is going through heartaches like this one.
It sounds like you were into this guy more than he was into you. And it sounds like you tried to woo him by sleeping with him.
In the future, I think you really need to be a bit more cautious getting emotionally (and physically) involved with a guy without a commitment or mutual interest. It only leads to these sort of situations.
Sadly, the only thing you can do is get over the hurt and move on. There's no magic way to lure him back and I think in the long run it would only cause more pain.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Am afraid you cant change his mind sweetie he has made it clear he only wants something casual. If am perfectly honest by the sounds of it you like him way more than that so i think it would be best if you stayed clear from him because you will only end up getting hurt.
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