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writes: I just know my husband is having an affair. I have seen saucy text messages from her on his phone but when I tried to confront him, he says that she is just a mate that he meets for coffee when he is at college.I know that he has been out with her on a saturday evening although he has said that he was with mates and I recently found a text message which said that 'she would like to cuddle up to him and sleep (ok maybe after)'He denies it of course but I am not stupid. How can I catch him? How do I get him to admit it? We have two small children and I do not want to separate but I want this to stop. My self-esteem is already on the floor.Help please if you can.
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reader, barbieanne32  +, writes (30 October 2008):
 i'm having the smae problems! my husband has a cell phone that i "accidently" found out about! he says his mom gave it to him. he hides it ALL the time, and if i ask to see it, he gets mad. the one time he let me hold it for a minute, i noticed that it had a "pin lock" code, therefore i coulndt see ANY numbers, texts etc... he says he doesnt even know what it is. its a pre-paid phone, so there's no information i can get about it. like i said, he hides it ALL the time and i haven't found his secrect hiding spot yet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): Hi, I know what you mean. I have a similar problem. My hsband has a mobile for work and a 'private' one because he cant send text messages from his work phone. The girl that works in the office has been texting him (and hes been texting back) but he deletes everything from his phone, there are no calls, no texts etc. I have caught him texting over and over and his phone is now closely guarded. I would love to be able to tap his phone but dont kow how. Someone please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): when he has a bath or leaves his phone for a short period. text her making it look like its your husband. once she has your trust or is making small talk or flirty remarks, tell her that it is you NOT him. make her think that your husband knows you are texting her and that you know more than you do. you would not believe what they give away when they are caught.
once you have all the evidence then confront him. he will not be able to deny it anymore.
remember it is not your fault. you have done nothing wrong. you didnt make him cheat. he did that himself. what you decide to do after the confrontation is up to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): If your husbond dosent like the way you are then he isnt worth it!.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): My husband has start to txt an 85777 number. Its a txt dating service, which gives txt sex, sends pictures of the girls boobs and he is trying to meet her. He is 45 and is a grandfarther, hes nothing special to look at and she looks about 18. He would be more annoyed that I went through his phone if he knew. His phone is in danger of being cut off because it is costing him hundreds of pounds which he cant afford. His excuse is that the number on the phone bill is there cos he forgets to lock the keypad and knocks the phone, yes possible, but the number has to be in the phone to start with for him to do that and his pocket wouldn't randomly select those numbers. I know I can do better than him and could probably get better than him. I also know that I can live with out him because I dont deserve this kind of treatment from him. I have had offers (so I know theres nothing wrong with the way I look or my personality) and turned them down because it was wrong, Maybe I wont next time.I agree that you get your self asteem up, look after yourself begin to feel and look good. Then watch him wonder!
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reader, mel +, writes (29 January 2006):
hes doing same as mine, he had affair and chose kids and me, you might think its a answer you want, its not he wont come near me (does he want her) ? i know who it was, i want to kill the bitch. but i cant say a bad word ( go figure!) i cry every nite. drink to much aqnd sit trying to work it al out.
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A reader, Wise Worm, writes (6 January 2005): First things first!!!Get your self-esteem up, immediately, get your body into shape, eat healthy and stop bad habbits, don't do this for your husband, but for yourself. Focus on your self-esteem, why is it low, don't blame your husband. People can only do as much as you allow them to do. I can almost gaurantee that if you become more selfassured, he will be by your side faster than anything. Don't tell him whats happening and don't threaten to leave him, let him wonder.Now do that first!!! Then if you are still worried... change her number on his phone to your number but leave the name the same,then when you are both at home, text him something short like. What you up to, or even What you wearing? He will respond and you will receive his reply...BUT WORK ON YOUR OWN SELF-ESTEEM FIRST.
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