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writes:Okay so I've been in a serious relationship for about 6 months. Before this relationship I was a very into having sex and so was my then boyfriend. We normally had sex 1-4 times a day. My current boyfriend though is another story. We rarly have sex maybe a few times a week. Sometimes we may not even have it for a week. I've noticed that sometimes his laptop is in the bedroom so I looked through the history and found he looks at porn. Now don't get me wrong i don't really have a problem with porn itself, I have a problem when he is "tired" and doesn't want it, or if i do get it he can't get off. Which really if the guy can't get off i'de rather just not even have sex. I understand that sometimes your too busy or stressed ect., but this isn't the case. Whenever he comes home from work first he looks at porn so in turn i don't get sex that day. Also two nights a week he gets his son so no sex then either. I'm really getting frustrated and angry but men love porn and it is like taking candy away from a baby. How do i bring this up without making it into a big thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe has always been like this it isn't a new thing.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Hi,
It looks like he is probably masturbating to the porn and then losing interest in you.
A lot of times in a relationship its not a simply a case of both parties being able to have sex all the time at will. After a while the man ( or woman ) might need different influences to keep them interested. Admitedly 6 months into the relationship is rather soon to start needing to spice things up, but maybe that's all you need to drag your man away from the porn on the internet.
You are comparing your new man to your old, this is not a good way to go, as your old bf had a high sex drive (1-4 times a day is a lot! )so any new bf has to live up to this stud, thats a hard act to follow.
I'm not excusing your bf's behaviour as it is pretty bad that he is ignoring you, but if everything else in your relationship is fine then it would be worth it to spice things up a bit and see where that leads you. Men are easily visually stimulated (hence our attraction to internet porn), have a go and see where it takes you.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Hey.
I have trained my boyfriend not to look at porn. might sound stupid but i was starting to think that he wouldnt like the way i look because porn stars bodys are perfect.
Anyway hears what to do. Tell him you know that he watches it all the time. Then start to get moody all the time and say what do you prefer porn to me. Whats the point in watching that rubbish when you got the real thing in front of you.
If that doesnt work then buy some real sexy underwear or uniforms, maybe some sex toys to. Then try to seduce him at a time you think is right. Trust me no man can resist a woman in sexy underwear holding sex toys.
GOOD LUCK
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