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writes:Hi Even though I thought was the end of the world I made it though and I am in LOVE. Its been a yr and 1/2 and all is perfect. My thing is that my kids and my partner met each other but there has been little interaction because I do not bring her home but now we will blend both my relationship and my family but I have no idea how withough having conflict. My partner is understanding but my kids specially my 16 yr old daughter will be hard to handle at times as she is with me at home. Any sugestions to make my transition easy? I never been in this position.Thank You! Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (6 November 2011):
Hi there. You were in a heterosexual relationship before, and you had your children.
Then you parted ways after many years, and now you are in a same sex relationship - is that right?
So the problem really, could be that your children are coping with you being with a woman now - instead of with a man, as you were when you were with their father.
If this is the case, they might not be understanding why this is so, and finding it hard to accept.
I suspect this could be why it's a bit tense on the homefront. Because it's strange to them.
The only thing you can really do, is to sit down with all of them and just explain how things are with you now, and tell them why. And just be completely honest when you do, so they do understand. Don't argue with them, just be patient kind and respectful, because it will then be up to them as to how long it takes to fully accept.
You are after all, still their mother - and the only mother they have.
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