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writes:*OP's own title* Am dating a nice guy but he never tld me he's bussinessman he like to control woman.... He wants to have kids now.... I really like him...am only 20 n live with my dad .... I'd like to know how to keep him happy n wat 2 do to keep him happy ? Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 He's nice but controlling? I'm confused! He can't be both.
Controlling people are NOT nice. If he's trying to control you, you need to avoid him like the swine flu.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): I am also engaged to a successful man. You must realise that if your man is successful then he probably has women throwing themselves at him all the time. He also has a golddigger radar, so you have to be different from the crowd. Never appear too eager. Don't call him every chance you get. Don't rush to answer every call. When you do return the calls you don't have to give a running commentary on what you have been doing. Keep your own interests apart from him. When you are together always have a positive uplifting attitude. No sulking or 'why didnt you call me yesterday" etc. Do not be walked all over; at the end of the day if he disrespects you then drop him. He must know that he cannot treat you like dirt. Remember that if women are throwing themselves at him, he may think he can just mess up then buy forgiveness. Dont accept any expensive gifts as apologies for bad behavior. Send them back because what he is doing is attaching a price tag to your value. He must always know from the beginning that you cannot be bought. If possible, take him out and pay for stuff too. You don't have to spend lavishly like he does! Your simplicity will fascinate him. Eg, prepare a picnic basket for the beach or something and pick him up in your battered beetle and insist on it, instead of taking him to the fancy restaurant then he has to pay anyway. Don't let him think he is a meal ticket. I cannot over emphasize the fact that you have to have a positive attitude. Be ambitious too; have a career. Ok I'm mumbling now but I hope it makes sense.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Dont let him control you, if your not ready for kids then dont have them. Tell him your not ready to start a family yet. If he loves you he will wait.
It sounds like you have only just met him and to be talking about kids at this stage is unreal. Hes infactuated right now. Give this some time, but if he hasnt changed after 6 months then find someone else.
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