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writes:I have been in touch with a guy every so often. We have known each other for 13 years. When we first met, he said that he liked me. We went on one date, but we didn't see each other after that. I can't actually remember why. He sent me some messages recently saying that he has missed me and enjoys talking to me as we have a laugh, and he said that he has always liked me. Hw asked if I was still talking to him after he said that. I'm not sure if he means he likes me as a friend or in another way. How should I ask him about it?. I've also recently come out of another relationship, so I might need to explain that. Could he be feeling more confident now that we are older, or could he just miss me because he is going through a difficult time?. His dad isn't well at the moment. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 January 2018):
 I think you should just see how it goes, meet up see how you both get on and see if you can be friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2018): Here's an update. He said he would like to be friends first and then something more if I wanted to. I'm not sure what to do, but I agree that I need to take things slowly. I think I also need to ask him a few more questions about his reasons why. So you think I should ask questions or just see how it goes?.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (29 January 2018):
 After 13 years I think he should have made a move by now. Could it be that he has a gap in his relationship itinerary and he thought, 'Who can I call?'
That needn't stop you exploring possibilities but be aware that you may just be a stop-gap. He may just be lonely.
And you are now facing life without a partner. Are you too looking for someone to be there.
Take it slow. Make sure you have reclaimed yourself from your previous affiliation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2018): A little question if I may ask :- prior to this contact as from what I gather from reading there been years of no contact? Am I correct ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2018): I think first and foremost, try to be a friend. That would build a good foundation if in the future you both decide to pursue something more. If not, at least you've gained a good friebd. Don't think too much about romance and being with him. Be his friend and get to know him. Take it one day at a time and don't over think. Afterall, you've just gotten out of a relationship, you need time to heal too.
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